Why Is Acceptance A Good Way To Be At Peace With Oneself?
It’s the 21st century! Where our minds are often found crowded and struggling with constant thoughts of wanting to change our painful past, imperfect present and challenging future that we think is in store for us!
As said by Carl Jung – “We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses!”
A question arises in mind, ‘Why should I accept the negative things that have happened in my life?’
This can be understood with the spiritual knowledge propounded by Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan, that anything that occurs in our life is the effect of the causes which we ourselves have made in past; whatever we’ve sown earlier is what we are reaping today.
The next question that arises then is, “How do I accept?”
For this, Pujya Dadashri places a master key in our hand – ‘whatever happens is justice’.
“If you accept Nature’s justice and understand that ‘Whatever has happened is justice,’ you will attain liberation. However, if you question Nature’s justice, you will invite puzzles and suffering. To believe that ‘Nature is always just’ is called true Knowledge.
To understand things as they are is real knowledge, and to not understand things as they are is ignorance” says Dadashri. When one man sets another man’s house on fire, people will regard it as injustice. However, in reality it is justice. The victim (whose house got burnt) has done some bad deeds and harassed the other man in a similar way in past; as a result of which this man is putting the victim’s house on fire today.
If the victim accuses and condemns the perpetrator now, he will have to suffer even more in future, since he is doing the mistake of accusing (Nature’s) justice of being unjust. Therefore, accept that ‘fault is always of the sufferer’, because the one who is seen as sufferer today is paying back for his fault made by him earlier – So precise and just the law of Nature is!
So in the process, where we are not ready to accept whatever good or bad happens in our life, and we choose to react with high amount of anger, dissatisfaction, greed, pride instead, we must understand that we are making our suffering grow only deeper by making further mistakes (by way of our reactions).
Acceptance and bowing down in repentance is a sign of straightforwardness.
How can a person get rid of his bad habits?
• Constant acceptance (with all humility and straightforwardness) that my habits are bad,
• Openly declare the bad habits before the Living Gnani, the Enlightened One,
• Repent a lot for these habits and never defend them.
“Then he will become free of them”, this is Dadashri’s personal discovery of how to get rid of bad habits. When one does heart-felt confession of his faults in front of Gnani or Lord (the Ones without attachment or abhorrence towards good and bad), that fault immediately leaves.
Hence, accepting with straightforwardness whatever good or bad happens is the only way to be at peace with oneself; for not only outside, even more importantly inside within us.
To Make This Very Easy, Attain Self Realization i.e. Attain the Knowledge of really who am I.
After you attend a Self Realization Ceremony (for details, please see https://www.dadabhagwan.org), you realize that, “I am Pure Soul and my nature is only to see and know.” With this, your belief, ‘I am indeed the one to whom this good or bad has happened’ also drops. This will make it easier to keep your mind, intellect and ego separate from yourself, and as a result they will not be able to disturb or obstruct you.
Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan says, “The world sleeps comfortably in delusion resulting in attachment and abhorrence (towards the good and bad that happens within), oblivious of the harm it causes. When one acquires Self-Realization, the delusion goes away and one becomes spiritually aware.”
After attaining Self-Realization, one can see within and without.
The experience of flawlessness (The Self, I am Pure Soul) is the reality within. Through that experience, one sees everything else, and that is why he is able to perceive his own mistakes. And since the observer of the mistakes remains separate from the mistakes:
• the clarity and transparency to see whatever good or bad happens within increases, and
• so does the ability to perceive and accept even the subtlest mistakes; and
• One remains always at complete peace with oneself.
We have been wandering through countless lifetimes, multiplying our faults. Only through the grace of the Living Gnani Purush, the Enlightened One, who has destroyed all his mistakes and has the divine powers to bestow liberation into our eager hands, can we attain our salvation. So, go see Him now….
To know more about nature’s justice please visit: https://www.dadabhagwan.org/path-to-happiness/self-help/is-god-just-why-injustice/what-is-the-nature-of-natures-justice/
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