8 Tips For Keeping Peace At Home
Everyone wants to have a peaceful state of mind. But in this modern era characterized by competition and conflict, it is easier said than done. Amidst steep targets, stiff deadlines, performance scores, work pressure, quarrels and clashes, our mental peace gets lost in thin air. Here are a few ways that can help manage our daily anxieties and find peace at home.
Meditation has a lot of benefits from physical to mental to spiritual. If done correctly, practicing mindfulness helps us in managing our emotions, and also the stress levels associated with it.
2) Realistic goals or expectations
Many of us set very high goals like reaching a target income, buying an extra big house, or something that is not very easy at the current state of life. Setting goals is fine, but to get upset when they don’t get fulfilled is not right. So set relatively smaller goals such that you can achieve them without ruining your mental peace.
3) Feeling of gratitude
At regular intervals, we must remember the good things that have happened to us and be grateful for what we have in our life. This gives a feeling of satisfaction and a sense of calmness.
4) With nature
Walking outside, breathing in fresh air, taking time to observe nature, listening to birds chirping etc. gives a soothing effect and a sense of well-being that energizes our body and mind.
We lose our peace when we hold a grudge or prejudice towards someone. Holding onto our anger will only burn us from inside. Rather if we forgive the other person, it results in mental peace; because by forgiving, we let go of our anger and pain. This increases our nobility too.
The spiritual teacher Param Pujya Dadashri says, “If you simply assimilate the phrase ‘adjust everywhere’ in your life, it is more than enough. Peace will arise automatically for you”. If we understand that anything that comes to us is because of our own karmic account and not as per the other person’s wish, and accordingly adjust, this right understanding yields mental peace.
We lose peace because we try to change people or situations to become as we want. Each person is bound to have a different nature and set of habits. If we accept people the way they are, without seeing them at fault, this will increase the love and harmony in our relationships.
Let me tell you my story about how I achieved peace. I believe this is the best way indeed for Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan says, “True peaceful state is that when one has inner peace amidst total lack of peace on the outside.”
Like everyone, I also come across adverse situations many a times in life. But I now know really WHO I AM and I also know on what basis situations come in my life. Therefore, rather than worrying about what should I do to change or improve any situation, I just work on applying these teachings.
Earlier, living in a nuclear family, I had been giving over attention to my spouse and kid, which resulted in me keeping over-expectations from them. Whenever my expectations were not fulfilled, I would feel very agitated. But I learned to maintain awareness that this feeling of agitation is in my mind (worldly self) and not in me (the real Self). I am Pure Soul, which is full of infinite bliss! With this, I would immediately experience peace.
Whenever there is a conflict, rather than blaming others, I now try to analyze and find out what is my worldly self’s mistake in this. In doing so, I became aware of the behavior which was making the other person angry or upset. I started seeking forgiveness mentally, from the Souls residing in each of the persons who had been so hurt by the behavior of my worldly self.
Eastern teachings have always emphasized that “Materialistic things hold no importance in front of a person’s emotions or feelings.” So I try my umpteen best that no hurt is caused to anyone through my thoughts, words or actions.
This is the best way to live!
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