5 Ways To Feel Confident When You Meet New People
Someone once said that you could be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches. And I couldn’t have said it better myself. As soon as we accept the fact that it isn’t possible to get every person to like or love you, the world will become a happier place.
It might be hard at first, but you have to learn to liberate yourself from ego and keep it real. Being realistic about yourself is a huge part of self-confidence, and that’s what attracts the right people in the first place.
Instead of pushing your fake self-esteem down everyone’s throat, embrace your flaws and imperfections, and be the best version of yourself. Confidence isn’t about expensive clothes, personal belongings, and other superficial stuff we use as tools to hide our true colors. It comes from deep within, and it means being able to love, being empathetic, caring about ourselves. It’s also connected with our moral values and many other things that aren’t visible to the naked eye.
If you follow our list down below you might find out some useful tips on how to feel confident when meeting new people and overcome obstacles that are stopping you from being who you really are.
Know that you’ll be judged no matter what
Prejudices are an inevitable part of every human being, and that’s okay because we all tend to judge others and also get judged back before we even speak or get to know people personally. But, you don’t have to try hard around irrelevant people and pretend to be someone you’re not in order to get credit and affirmation.
On the other hand, if you want to win someone’s heart, trust, and sympathy, then just be yourself, only sugarcoat it a little because it won’t hurt right? We all turn the ‘goodie two shoes’ mode on when we like someone and when we want to be liked back, and that’s completely natural. Just don’t exaggerate because eventually your true colors are likely to emerge, and you don’t want people to appreciate the person you pretended to be more than your true self.
Clothes are (not) important
When we want to leave the best first impression, we always tend to choose the cutest outfit we own. When choosing smart clothes, always go for the classy evening dresses that accentuate your figure and show that you are a lady. Clothes don’t define you as a person, but they reveal some parts of your personality and state of mind, for sure. If you are going on a first date, try to stay well dressed, but don’t go over the top. Stay effortless, and always choose comfort over a pretty and itchy dress.
Don’t change your attitude to please other people
We often avoid expressing our real opinions loud and clear because we are afraid of being rejected and misunderstood. But, forever playing on the safe side will never get you out of your comfort zone. Adapting to other people’s thoughts and accepting someone else’s opinion, while not agreeing with it at all, can lead to greater insecurities over time.
Think of a person who’s strong and secure in themselves and how they react in similar situations. That one person who at any place and in every society clearly states their attitude and opinion, regardless of the opinion of the environment. That’s exactly the kind of person you need to be. Say your opinion out loud, defend it with arguments and don’t hide behind other people’s words just to be accepted. To be honest, people are impressed with those who are willing to express their views and defend their perceptions, rather than those who nod their heads at every word you say.
You can try this method first with your neighbors, friends or relatives and you’ll see how much you’re going to feel better when you say what you really mean. It will teach you and give you the power to show your attitude and your opinion in every situation.
Eye contact is important
Communication is essential for good and quality interpersonal relationships. While talking to people or simply having a small talk with a guy you just met, it’s also important to pay attention to the way you talk and gestures. Try not to lower your shoulders and look away. Stand still and make eye contact.
This way, you’re sending him a signal that you are sure of what you are saying, that you have a clear view and a true vision. You leave the impression that you are absolutely positive of the topic you’re talking about, and by the time this way of communication becomes a habit, you’ll be much more confident about yourself and it will come naturally.
Smile and laugh
Keep that cute and flirty smile, but don’t overdo it because you don’t want to be labeled as the one with a fake, awkward grin. Smiling makes you a warmer person and you immediately look more approachable and friendlier. Also, there are people who don’t laugh in front of new people, because they are not sure they would react. They don’t want to be mocked or made fun of. Stop thinking about that! If something is funny, laugh and don’t worry about other people’s reactions. Enjoy those little moments of joy and don’t push them away just because of society.
It doesn’t take a scientist to tell you all this stuff that you should’ve already known by yourself. Let this list be your reminder for the next time you meet new people and don’t forget to be your gorgeous little self. That always pays off.
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