Be Aware Of The Voice In Your Head (It’s Crazy)
“He is really handsome and so outgoing and fun to be around. I wonder if he likes me too? Wait a minute, he has children the same age as me. Would I move in with him or would he move in with us? Would my children have to change school districts? What happens after we are together and married if our children don’t like each other or we raise them differently? It would likely end in divorce. Really? Now we are thinking about divorce?”
That was the internal dialogue a friend of mine shared with me over dinner a few days back. She said she started laughing out loud when she became aware of these thoughts, as the man she had been thinking about dating and divorcing was a casual work acquaintance and somebody she had never shared anything other than brief, business-oriented conversations with. Our mind chatter is incessant. It does not even choose a side, opting instead to argue any position. The conversations, of course, aren’t always as funny as this one. They keep us preoccupied on our drives, keep us from concentrating on a movie we really wanted to pay attention to, keep us up at night and from experiencing our life at the moment.
Be Aware of the Voices
By becoming aware of these voices inside our heads, we can start taking a small step back and gaining a little clarity. Who is this voice? Who is it that can hear this voice? It is going on inside of our head. We can clearly hear it. We can feel the emotions the voice conjures up. But who is hearing the voice?
Many of us think that we are the voice inside of our head. We are so clearly identified with this voice, that we think that is who we are. We may think that the jealous, angry or bitter voice is not who we are. The voice that sounds patient and loving and kind, maybe that is who we are. If you can hear it, no matter the sound of the voice, it is still not who you truly are. You are the observer behind the voice. You are the silent one, watching the emotions flare up, noticing feelings, and hearing that voice.
Why are the Voices Even There?
Why do we have this incessant voice going on inside of us, to begin with? This voice is our mind trying to protect us from our world. We walk around, wanting to be happy and avoiding anything uncomfortable. We want others to like us. We want to be able to speak our truth, yet not offend anybody. We want to get along with everybody. We want all things positive and good in life, and not have anything painful or difficult happen to us. It is our mind that has been given the responsibility to keep us comfortable at all times. However, it is an impossible task. Our mind cannot deliver that desire, yet it tries its hardest to keep us from feeling discomfort. That is why our mind is constantly running, playing out scenarios and switching positions; all in an effort to control and maintain equilibrium.
Separate Yourself from the Voice
The spiritual journey begins by becoming aware of this voice, to create a separation of this voice from the “I am”. It is in that place of pure consciousness that our wisdom, inner truth, and life purpose reside. It is from this center that we can create the life that we dream of and the relationships we ache for. To start becoming aware of that voice and the impact it has on your life, it can be helpful to personify it, to see it as a separate being outside of you. I like to picture that voice driving in the car next to me or laying in bed with me at night. By doing so, you can start noticing its negativity and controlling nature.
Imagine if you had a friend that talked to you the way this voice talks to you. Would you not send this friend on her merry way? Yet we listen to this voice, we take its advice and we react to people, places and things based on this advice. How many times has this voice led you wrong? How many times have the stories you told yourself turned out to be wrong? I encourage you to spend even just 15 minutes each day becoming conscious of the voice inside your head. It can be easiest to notice this voice while taking a shower or on a drive with the radio turned off. As you notice this voice, start becoming aware of the consciousness that is listening to this voice.
That is the beginning of your awakening. That is the first step into a new way of being in this world.
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