Want To Make The Right Decisions? You Need To Use Your Head, Heart, And Hands

When making any decision in your life, you are using three different parts of your being: your head, your heart, and your hand. Each aspect affects every moment of your day, but unfortunately, sometimes we forget to use them all together, or we forget about them entirely. When you don’t use one, none of the others will work for you and you will find you are unrelentingly stuck in unhappiness.

Our head is basically our brain, our mindset, our psychology. It’s a part of us that exists and has conscious thought, but can also act and react on unconscious thoughts based on past experience and programming. Our heart is our intuition. It’s the gut feeling. I also believe at an even deeper level, it’s the spark of true source, divine source, God, whatever you choose to believe in, that allows us to tap into a far greater knowing and intelligence. Whereas our hand is more so a physiology. It’s our human body, the meat suit that contains the head and the heart and helps us to put our love and logic into action.

The head, heart, and handwork beautifully together when there’s a conscious knowing that they do and if we have an ongoing practice to awaken the different parts. Let’s be honest: many people walk around the world very unconscious. They’re not conscious of what they’re eating, the decisions they’re making, what they choose to invest their career in, the partners they choose, and so forth. It’s time for us to reclaim our consciousness and reconnect with ourselves, starting with reacquainting ourselves with our head, heart, and hand.

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Reconnect yourself to you

We need all three of these components to reach our highest selves, but as the physical heart is the first part of us that starts to grow in the mother’s womb, we first must understand and learn to build our connection with our heart, with our sense of knowing that intuition or gut instinct. Once we do, we can start to work on resolving any blockages, barriers, and borders within our psychology and mindset by working with coaches or doing self-reflective processes to help transform and transcend trauma.

After reawakening our heart, there needs to be an element of embodiment where, once we’ve made active decisions based on intuition, we run it through our logical brain. We can be very connected to our head, be intellectually smart, even work on some of our wounds, but have no connection to our heart or intuition. We would go through life making logical, smart decisions but not necessarily making choices that align with our hearts or look after our physical health.

For our hand or body, we should be doing practices like yoga, breathwork, and certain somatic practices to ensure that our physical body that holds the consciousnesses of the brain and the heart is performing as best as it can. A body that performs these exercises will not hold onto the muscle memory effects of trauma. Have you ever noticed that animals respond to a traumatic experience by shaking their bodies? When a cat or a dog has been chased, the first thing they do once they’re safe is shake the trauma out of their system to ensure it doesn’t get stuck in their body. We must do the same for our body so all three systems can work together optimally.

The collaboration of head, heart, and hand

We can have any one of these three things working well individually, but the others may not be. For example, we can have really good physical health, but not be working on our mindset or developing our spiritual connection to our heart. We can live a “healthy” life, but it won’t be a life that experiences a deep sense of joy, connection and love. However, if we get the heart piece right, we’ll experience an incredible sense of fulfillment, inspiration, and intuition. We’ll also then be able to work through more of our physical and earthly traumas of the brain, which allows our brain to make better decisions intellectually and to communicate with the heart.

If we work on the heart first, we start to build that relationship or that remembrance with our intuition. Simultaneously, we start to work on resolving traumas and limitations of the brain, so we’re less likely to be triggered and follow those unconscious responses from the reptilian brain because we are more deeply connected to our heart. That, along with embodying good routines around health and nutrition, can ensure that when we do experience trauma, it doesn’t get stored in the body.

Once you learn how to use these three systems together, you may find it’s kind of like popping a bottle of fizzy champagne. Often, when someone starts to go down this path of using their heart or resolving trauma, life can appear to get worse before it gets better. However, it’s not so much that it’s getting worse, but rather you’re finally starting to see everything that you’ve been suppressing for years. It’s so important to be persistent to get through that and stay connected to your heart because, although you will face difficulties, there will be a sense of peace, calm, and release. There will be an innate knowing that you’re progressing forward in more profound ways than what you’ve experienced in the past.

The work is worth the effort

The struggles you face in reacquainting yourself with you will be specific to you and your life experiences. For example, the amount of work to get your head right is determined by how much trauma you’ve experienced—someone who’s lived in a fairly good environment and experienced a lot of love will need less retraining than someone who didn’t. For many of us, we make decisions based on trying to avoid past experiences, past wounds, childhood traumas, and so forth.

Equally, with the heart, some beings or souls are potentially older souls than others. Many people can embrace the heart and feel beautiful feelings instantly, whereas, for others, it takes time to help them to let go of the consciousness or the effort to be able to access that. As for our hand, it’s a matter of establishing what physical activity will bring us joy and help us release our physical manifestations of trauma.

I use my heart every single day in every single decision I make, and I use my head to sit with the decisions of my heart and to understand how I can best express them in a way that others will understand. Then I use my hands to physically take action and put these thoughts, these dreams into creation, because until there’s action applied, they’re nothing more than a thought. They’re nothing more than energy or a feeling until we take action

Because I have learned to use my head, heart, and hand together, I’ve found a happiness and a completeness that allows me to live my best, complete life, and accomplish any dream.