The 5 Basics Of Self-love
We find it easy to love others yet fall short when it comes to loving ourselves, don’t we? Self-love is probably the most important kind of love there is. I really believe that one should love him or herself first and everything will perfectly fall into place. The common mistake we make is that we only consider ourselves deserving of self-love when we were able to achieve something tangible or when we see results of our hard work right in front of us. This typical trail of thought is unfair because we deserve self-love all day, every day!
Here are five self-love basics that should be pushed to sink in our subconscious:
1) Appreciate yourself as who you are
If you do not appreciate yourself, no one else will. You should be your own confidence booster. Appreciate your looks, your build, your strengths, and even your weaknesses. Do not forget to congratulate yourself for a job well done and do not be hard in forgiving yourself for not being the best at all times. Accept yourself despite the imperfections. It is significant to know that not everything about you and your life must be perfect. What’s important is you understand what will better make yourself better. Just open your heart to where you stand today and keep in mind that you are exactly where you should be.
2) Give your body the nurturing and care it deserves
Please spoil yourself and your body. Nurturing and caring can be in many forms. You can express love for yourself by eating healthy, by exercising, calming baths, by traveling and so much more. I nurture myself in modest ways – I religiously do skincare every day and use all products that I know can make me feel and look good inside and out. I acknowledge that I spend quite an amount on this stuff and I don’t feel guilty about it.
Despite the daily rush, I give myself a few minutes every morning to meditate on how I will work all throughout the day. Remember, the first hour in the morning sets the tone for the rest of your day. I also make sure to allow a day or two every month going to places where I feel my body and mind are most relaxed.
There’s still a lot more ways. Do not deprive yourself the care you deserves.
3) Do not restrict yourself in dreaming
Have wild fantasies! Don’t dream according to the goals set by society. There is nothing wrong in dreaming the extraordinary. Remember, if your dreams don’t scare you, then they’re not big enough. Honey, you’ll never achieve big results if you don’t start by dreaming and believing. Don’t let society discourage you. Instead, scare them with your wild dreams!
4) Remove all toxicity in your life
Eliminate toxic people, toxic relationships, toxic jobs, or anything toxic in your life. Being in a negative environment can hinder your self-improvement. It is important to identify the toxic areas and then work on how to get rid of these. Say “NO” to people who don’t light you up and stay away from anything that is generally undesirable. Be reminded that toxicity is contagious – it metastasizes and damages your whole life.
5) Live according to your purpose
Always go back to your biggest “WHYs”. It is best to know where you are coming from and where you are going. You will be unstoppable when you know your purpose because you know who you are, what you are, and why you are. You can never escape self-doubt because the voice of your inner critic will always be there. But bear in mind that you must learn how to fight and conquer your inner demons. There will still be nights when things will get too much but that’s okay – your feelings are valid. As difficult as things may be, know that you will get through it.
Self-love is not selfish so be generous in giving yourself so much love and remain kind to yourself despite the discouragement and criticisms from others.
I hope that whoever you are reading this – you will be able to love yourself as you are. Know that you are authentic, you are a pure beauty, you are worthy of love – you are enough.
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