5 Things That Will Lead To Depression (And How To Overcome Them)
By going on our seemingly endless fast life marathon, we may feel sad, unsettled and unhappy.
There are many levels and kinds of depression, from mild to severe. With our fast-paced life and daily routines, we often can’t notice the depression that emerges. We also can’t pinpoint the reason for our deep feelings. We do not stop to feel and understand them, as we keeping going, missing out the present moment.
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One of the reasons we feel depressed is the absence of social connections – a situation that actually leads to a sense of loneliness. Even if our part is not deterrent and we have no problem being alone, it may still lead us to suffer from depression. Being happy with ourselves is very important, and it may even make us feel good. But over time, it may change and lead us to become depressed without knowing why.
Some people spend a lot of time with colleagues from work or social gatherings, but they can still feel lonely and depressed. You can be around people, but at the same time feel a lack of social relationship with them. Stop for a moment to observe who is around you, and if you really need to talk heart to heart, who can you call from your friends?
So if you feel depressed, you should examine your social connections and see how many people are really around you. If you were to call a person now for advice, or just to have an honest conversation, how many people can you call? If the answer to this question is a quantity that does not satisfy you, know that it is never too late to change the existing situation. If you are isolating yourself from good friends or family, you should try to reach out and see if relationships can be rebuilt. You can also try new activities where you can meet other people and create honest social relationships.
Understand that your relationships are in your head. Start to reach out and embrace your close relationships and make peace with your family. Reach out during social events, celebrate the holidays, attend fun classes, and gather people. This will improve your social life and lead a happy life.
- Release your need for approval from others
- Avoid judgment
- Enjoy the moment
- Take responsibility for your actions, words, and deeds
- Practice love yourself
Lack of meaning or purpose
Many philosophers deal with the essence and meaning of life, and they spend a lot of time thinking and analyzing these things, but we too have dealt with these things. When we were younger, we probably spent a lot of time wondering what we wanted to achieve from our lives and what it meant to us. But as we got older, we become too busy with life itself until we just forgot about it.
Because of a lack of meaning or purpose in life, we may feel and experience depression. Even if everything is perfect around us and we have a good job and we have a loving and happy family, we can still feel depressed every day because deep down we lost touch with our original goal and knowing what we want from our lives.
It is important to remember that everyone finds meaning in different things – work, relationships, helping others, learning, creativity and more. So you should take a step back and look at your life. Ask yourself: what makes you happy? Do you remember what your primary goal in life is and do you live in today? The answers to all of these questions may change over time. It is really not certain that what led you 10 years ago is what will lead you today.
So, remember that you can change the situation at any given moment. All you have to do is examine your life, try to see if there are things that look good on the surface but actually make you unhappy and feel depressed on the inside. After you have done this, consult a close friend or family member and see if they can help you see something you cannot see.
Suppressed emotional feelings
Each of us has primary and secondary feelings – the main ones are feelings such as sadness, anger, anxiety; while the latter reflects ourselves toward the main emotions. So we may feel sad in a particular thing, and then our secondary emotion will come into play and react to this sadness by telling us that we should not feel sad because it is not that great, or it will signal to us that we should actually feel sad.
That is how humans are the only creatures who can be irritated at being nervous – because we have this extra dimension of self-observation. As a result, if we feel that our emotions are unjustified, we may repress them and this can lead us to depression. The secondary feelings come from the values that we have grown up with, which can be derived from our immediate surroundings like our family or friends. For instance, we may have been told as children that expressing feelings is a sign of weakness.
These values adhere to us over time, and once we feel the main emotions that do not align with them, we will begin to tear from the inside and fight against ourselves. True, such a thing can be very difficult, but coping with it is possible and achievable. Start by trying to understand why you are angry, sad or happy about certain things. Try to look at yourself, see what you really feel and give yourself permission to feel that way.
Some may see the benefits observing the effects feelings have on you, and as a result, will feel a lot of weight drop off your shoulders. While some of you may feel that you need more, or you still cannot figure out whether you are repressing your feelings, which by then, you should seek out a coach or a mentor for guidance.
Our inner voice
Our inner voice can be as threatening and paralyzing, which can happen subconsciously without us having any control over it. It can bring us down and sabotage our soul. The reasons for our inner voice can be based on mistakes or failures we have experienced, comments from our parents or teachers, or because we are simply perfectionists and put too much pressure on ourselves.
Like water dripping on a stone for so long, it will create a dent in the end. The negative inner voice develops over time – we are not good enough, we are not smart, and so on. At first, we may not feel it at all, but over time it may attack us verbally from the inside, creating a dent in our soul and well-being, which can lead us to depression. This type of depression is very difficult to diagnose because we cannot see how difficult we are with ourselves and in this particular case, the people around us will probably not notice it either.
Therefore, awareness is the key. Begin to pay attention to your thoughts, self-talk, mindset and the way you view yourself. And if you feel depressed and unable to understand why then your inner voice is probably the reason.
Ask yourself: do you put a lot of pressure on yourself and feel bad when you do not meet your expectations? If the answer is unequivocal yes, then your inner voice is self-sabotage and makes you feel depressive. If you are struggling with this voice, you can begin to write down everything that goes through your mind, then read what you have written and begin to dismiss the negative self-talk and paralyzing statements that lead you to feel depressed.
However, many are stuck in this vicious cycle. If you cannot handle your inner voice successfully, allow yourself to look for a mentor to help you in this process.
High level of stress and fatigue
Stress is the biggest challenge that leads to depreciation. Stress is defined as a state of mental or emotional strain caused by many circumstances. There are numerous emotional and physical challenges that have been linked to stress including depression, anxiety, heart attacks, stroke, hypertension, immune system disturbances that increase susceptibility to infections, and many more.
At one point or another, most people deal with feelings of stress in their life. It’s a part of life, as we say. In fact, one study shows that 33% of adults reported experiencing high levels of perceived stress. The stress condition is associated with a long list of physical and mental symptoms including frequent headaches, jaw clenching or pain, gritting, grinding teeth, Insomnia, nightmares, disturbing dreams, weight gain or loss without diet, difficulty concentrating, racing thoughts, trouble learning new information, forgetfulness, disorganization, confusion, Difficulty in making decisions, feeling overloaded or overwhelmed.
Daily awareness of these symptoms can prevent depression. Practice mindfulness, breath work, and meditation.
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