Here’s What Listening To Your Gut Means In Dating
Following your intuition is a great way to feel out whether or not someone is good for you in dating. However, it’s important to note that listening to your gut comes with its imperfections and downfalls. It’s still totally worth it though!
Know that it’s more than a feeling — it’s your intuition
Listening to your gut isn’t just a feeling you may have. It’s your intuition that speaks to you in many ways. Being sad or angry could come from a variety of sources like hunger or trouble at work. It can be easy to mistake feelings for your gut telling you to do or not to do something, but it’s not as simple as feelings you have or don’t have.
Know that often your first thought is your best thought
Think about when you’re considering whether or not to go on a date with someone and your initial reaction is no. Then, you reason with yourself about why it may be a good idea and you convince yourself to go on the date. There you find when you arrive that it isn’t a good match. Often that first thought that you have about a situation is your intuition, or your best thought.
Ask yourself how you feel when you’re with the person
An interesting practice of listening to your gut can happen when you turn down the chatter in your mind and instead lean into how you’re feeling. If you’re having doubts about whether someone is the right person for you, watch how you feel among other signals from your mind, body, and spirit.
Feel what’s going on in your body
If you find yourself tensing up with a pit in your stomach, this is something to look out for. In addition to thoughts and feelings, your body can relay a ton of information to you. If you find that there’s stress in your body when you’re around someone you’re dating, it could just be natural fear or it could be a sign that it isn’t a good match.
The best way to listen to your gut is to slow down enough to give it space to talk to you. Sometimes feelings and body sensations can be indicators of something totally in left field. However, if they persist over the course of days and weeks, you know that you have something to listen to. Slowing down can only be a good thing.
Give your thoughts and feelings space to breathe
Slowing down can definitely be scary, but it’s totally worth it because your thoughts and feelings need space to breathe in order to communicate with you. They need to air themselves out to be able to be read clearly by you. Giving them space also allows you the opportunity to act in a way that is grounded and well felt out.
Pay attention when you get a bad feeling in your belly
You know when you’re around someone or something says something and it just doesn’t sit right for you? Even if you can’t explain it, this is your gut trying to tell you something in order to keep you safe. It’s a very important time to listen up and see what your body, mind, and spirit have to say about the situation.
Logic doesn’t get you very far in dating
Logic can be a tricky thing because a person can be attractive, kind, and funny yet they might still not feel right. Your brain isn’t the best way to feel out compatibility and what you should do next. Instead, your gut offers much more information about what your spirit is asking for.
It’s okay (and good) to get a second opinion
Listening to your gut is a beautiful and valuable thing, but it’s totally not perfect. It’s actually a really good thing to get a second opinion from someone you trust and love. Sometimes your friends can see things that you cannot see and they’ll be able to point things out that you may have otherwise missed. You’re not neglecting your gut when you’re looping in a friend.
Know when not to listen to your gut
Listening to your gut can lead you astray. Sometimes fear can take over and it’s not rational. Also, trauma could throw a wrench in how your gut communicates. If you’re a victim of sexual assault, sex may be difficult and confusing for you regardless of how much you attempt to listen to your gut. Even though this practice is imperfect, it’s still worth it.
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