A Guide For Deliberate Living In The New Year…

A Guide For Deliberate Living In The New Year

How many tabs do you currently have open? Is your mind just as busy, and trying to juggle a million things at once? Do you have a sneaking suspicion that you’re always on auto-pilot? Here are some practical, free ways to ground you back in the present. At the end of the year, we are often frazzled, but looking forward to setting new aims and intentions.

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1) Set intentions for your day, every day.

Perhaps you want to make a few, such as treating that stressed with compassion, and eating well throughout the day. When you wake up, take a few moments to really breathe. Maybe open a window and sit by it for a few moments, taking in the morning air. Check in with yourself. What’s going to make today different? What do you want to achieve? These can be the most simple tasks or thought-processes; those are usually the most effective.

2) Meditate during the most simple of activities.

As you might have read in my last post, washing up can bring a sense of peace. If you don’t have time to fit in yoga poses and exercise, be mindful when you walk to your car. Listen to the sound of the trees and really pay attention to your surroundings. Appreciate every moment. How beautiful is it, to be alive? Even when we are in pain, it’s a reminder that we are still here, with the blood running through our veins and our feet supporting us, that we can feel touching the firm ground. Do a body-scan while you’re sitting at your desk. First feel your feet, then pay attention to your calves, followed by your torso, shoulders, etc. With each breath, become aware of another part of your body. Notice any pain or tension. Awareness is everything. Be aware of everything around you, wherever you are.

3) Even when planning, don’t see your goals as having perfectly fixed outcomes.

You can be in the present moment if you don’t buy into an idyllic world where all of your goals have worked out perfectly. There is no such thing as perfect. For a truly deliberate life, think about the actions you can take to get closer to what you want to materialize and let go of the stifling expectations as you act. Your mind is free then, to embrace the present moment. Your goals are guides for now. Allowing for flexibility will set you free.

4) Review your year, and make notes for the next one.

2018 is coming to a close and you might have done some incredible things. You might have seen a country or city you never have before, or see something beautiful in a friend’s selflessness, a baby’s smile, a pet’s devotion, or a partner’s compassion. You might have achieved some goals and cherished some moments of tranquility. However your year has gone, review it. Ensure to carry anything you want to take with you into the next year. If you have any unanswered questions and things you wish you’d done, bring them into the next year. If these expectations are baggage you’re carrying around that you know intuitively belong in the past, let them go. Make way for intentional living and beautiful minimalism.

5) Forgive the minor faults in people you love, or work with.

If you know that sometimes, people really can get on your nerves with the things they say or do that you just wouldn’t in a million years, remember that you can wholeheartedly embrace them without agreeing with every flaw or opinion. You can forgive them for not being how you want them to be. This is the first step to letting go because what we perceive to be in the way of us getting things done, being happy, or feeling stable, are our relationships with others. This new year, I challenge you to forgive people (within reason – I’m not saying pick up old connections that are toxic to you) who might not act the way you want them to. Be positive about them, and act the opposite of how you feel when they annoy you. See if anything changes. Perhaps it means you suit a leadership role, or that you’re the head of your family because you have a vision for how things should be. So, live deliberately!


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Cal Morgan

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Cal is a trainee teacher and writer, whose life aims are to become mindful and content. Cal hopes to work…

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