7 Important Shifts In Perspective That Helped Me Through Depression
Before I start, I want you to take some time right now to be proud of yourself. I’m assuming you are reading this article to help yourself, and self-help takes discipline, courage, and strength. You’re on the right track. Be proud 🙂
I suffered from depression, on and off, for about 6 years. It started approximately a year after I gave birth to my baby girl. I could barely keep a job, and the jobs that I did happen to maintain were ridiculously low paying. I lived with my parents and getting my own place seemed far-fetched. I wanted to own a large wardrobe and keep my hair and make-up done like I assumed the other girls my age did. I wanted a car so that my daughter and I didn’t have to endure the inconvenience of public transportation. I couldn’t keep up with the financial demands of my little one. No one told me kids grew out of their clothes nearly every month! I dated here and there, but I had poor judgment in men, so I always ended up disappointed. I would suppress my feelings and move along, not realizing that my self-confidence was gradually diminishing. My father passed away of a heart attack. It was so sudden that my mind took a while to believe it. I had childhood trauma that I never spoke about, I didn’t even allow myself to think about it. I was overwhelmed. I didn’t ask for help, but I knew I needed help. I didn’t want to burden anyone with my problems. I didn’t want to look weak or hopeless.
I began to feel insignificant. I woke up one day and was angry at the fact that I had woke up. I didn’t want to live. I didn’t feel like a good mother. I didn’t feel like I would ever prosper. I Literally couldn’t find any reason to be alive. I remember looking on the internet for ways to commit suicide quickly and painlessly. I would always bend over backward for others people happiness (which I still do, gladly) but I could NEVER let them see me upset. I hid my symptoms quite attentively.
I still don’t know exactly what shifted in me, but I started to change my perspective about my entire life! Nothing made sense anymore, but in a good way. My mind changed and my life began to change with it. It is now 2 years post “spontaneous shift” and I am happy, fulfilled and free! I honestly don’t believe this is reversible, so I can proudly say that I cured myself for good. And so can you. Here’s how kick depressions ass!
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1) Are my desires worth taking my own life for?
I mean seriously. It’s almost like a child throwing a tantrum when they don’t get what they’ve been begging for. I wrote down all of my wants and began to realize that I was being a bit ungrateful and maybe even irrational. Everything I wanted could possibly make my life easier, which is great, but there was no reason to make these things so mandatory. I was so used to coming from a place of lack, that I rarely acknowledge all of the things I could rejoice about. Make it a habit to be thankful for all that you have. You don’t have to eliminate your desires, but take them out of the “life or death” category. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world. Trust me when I say, the things you want, you will receive. Be consistent and be grateful.
2) Getting to the source
I wanted to get to the source of my unhappiness. I excluded outside influences so that I would focus on things that I could control. It boiled down to my mind and my mood. I had to deliberately reprogram my mind. I constantly read self-help books, watched self-development videos, and I gravitated toward anything that focused on healing the mind body and soul. I still follow all of the YouTube channels that helped lead me out of depression. I had to be mindful. I paid closer attention to the way I reacted to things, and how I felt in different situations. It is imperative to be consistent with this step. And also be careful about the information you study. Although self-care content is usually of our best interest, I always encourage people to question anything they feed their minds.
3) Do what you love
Make sure it’s what you love and not what society tells you that you should love. Be real with yourself. Pay attention to what makes you feel delighted. By doing this, you are becoming your authentic self.
4) Don’t be so hard on yourself
We hear this all the time, but for some reason, it seems so hard to practice. You cannot get mad at yourself for making mistakes and not being perfect. Your mind is vulnerable during a depression. You can’t afford to be your own enemy. Be kind, be gentle, be patient. Treat yourself like you would a newborn baby. You deserve to be treated with love and respect and who better to get it from than yourself?
5) I AM in control
Depression will lead you to believe that things are out of your control, but that’s the furthest thing from the truth. Our minds are similar to computers. You can download detrimental content or you can download beneficial content. You can power up or even shut down when you need to. It’s really all up to you. “I am in control” is a powerful affirmation to repeat to yourself daily. This statement will train your subconscious mind to believe it.
6) Finding my purpose
Aside from our individual life paths, we all have one common purpose: To help each other. I believe this entire life experience is all about learning and growing together. Helping others is the same as helping yourself. It’s liberating and it feels incredible. Learning about this purpose that I share with humanity helped me branch off and figure out other tasks that I am here to complete. I no longer feel empty or insignificant. I now know that I am a part of something huge.
As I began to practice self-love, I noticed a term that kept being brought to my attention, acceptance. Accepting yourself and accepting the people around you is true freedom. It’s a form of unconditional love. It helped boost my self-esteem and made me less critical of myself and others. I remind myself every day that we are all human. We may be flawed, but we are trying the best that we can. Don’t be afraid of being judged, and don’t judge yourself too often.
Depression is scary, but I am here to tell you that you can and will get out of it. Strengthen your mind. Reprogram your subconscious mind. It won’t happen overnight, but knowing that it will eventually happen is reassurance in itself. I overcame depression alone. I had to force myself to pick up the broken pieces and put them back together. I am now happy and free. Read these tips as often as you need to. I wish you nothing but joy and bliss!
(Never be afraid to inform your family and friends or to seek professional help)
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