7 Ways To Celebrate Your Single Status

It seems that society would like us to think that there’s something wrong with a relationship status that says ‘Single’. They would like us to think that our happiness can’t start until we find a life partner – or at least a partner for right now. Then, we can update our status to In a Relationship, and everyone can breathe a sigh of relief that we’re happily settled.

What year is this??? 

There is an assumption that having a relationship is some kind of marker of success, which means that lacking a committed relationship is equated to failure. That assumption is accompanied by the idea that everyone who is single wants a significant other when many singles are actually choosing their single status. Honestly, it can make being single more stressful than it needs to be.

While our culture may not celebrate being single, there’s nothing that says we can’t. Yes, I’m single, too. Divorced, a mother of two, and in my 30s, I’ve been happily in a relationship with myself for the past few years, with one relationship exception. I’ve decided that being single doesn’t say anything about me except that I have standards, won’t settle, and haven’t met a person who would make me consider giving up my single status for a partnership. It certainly doesn’t mean that I am defective in some way or have unrealistic ideas of relationships. It just means that I am, currently, on my own. And, while I’m on my own, I plan to celebrate it.

Here are a few ways to get started celebrating our single status.

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1) Sign Up for a Subscription Box

Yes, there’s one specifically for singles, but there are also boxes for nearly every interest imaginable – beauty, fashion, fitness, books, crafts, and more. I’ve tried several of these, in a few categories, and this is one of the best ways to celebrate yourself. Getting a surprise box of goodies each month is a wonderful treat!

2) Date Yourself

It’s Friday night, and the plan is to Netflix and Chill with your two best guys, Ben & Jerry. That’s great, but every now and then, we need to date ourselves. Dress up and go out to a nice dinner. Take yourself to a jazz night at a museum or go see a movie. Because, baby, you’re worth it.

3) Buy Yourself Flowers

There’s no reason to wait around, hoping someone else will finally shower us with attention. We deserve fresh flowers to brighten our day, and there’s no reason we shouldn’t buy our own.

4) Be Your Own Valentine All Year Long

It doesn’t have to be a special occasion to show love to yourself. Write yourself a love letter, practice positive affirmations, take yourself on a picnic, and even buy yourself that box of chocolates you love. You’re not between relationships; you’re in a relationship with yourself. Act like it.

5) Take the Time to Set some Personal Goals

Not having a relationship means that you have more time to yourself. Use that time to set some goals and start working on them. Make them fun, not chores you’re doing in some kind of endless effort of self-improvement to attract a mate.

6) Make Sure Your Self-Care is on Point

Do you even practice self-care? If not, it’s time to start. My self-care is pretty basic but also filled with pampering. I like to have a hot bath and a glass of wine while giving myself a home facial. Sometimes, my self-care is a meditation on an app I like or a session of yoga. Other times, it’s a run. I try to make sure that I practice some form of self-care every single day.

7) Host a Night Out with Friends

It can seem like we’ve nowhere to go and nothing to do when we don’t have a partner to spend time with, but it’s actually a perfect opportunity to have a night out with our friends. Pick an event, and see if you can get a group of friends together for a singles night (or at least, a night without partners present for those in relationships).

Being single doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with us. Clearly, we’re fabulous. Instead of feeling bad about what we don’t have, we need to focus more on celebrating our relationship with ourselves. Even if we’re happily single 99.9% of the time, other people’s judgment and opinions can weigh heavily on us if we’re not doing our part to celebrate ourselves. So shake off that judgment, change out of your pajamas, and tell Ben & Jerry you need a rain check. We don’t need anyone else to validate our single status. We just need to remember to make time to celebrate it!

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