Mental Health & How to Get Through Divorce
Divorce is one of the hardest things that a person can go through in life. The person you thought you would be with for the rest of your life has now become the person that’s leaving your life. This can often leave us heartbroken and sad. Even though that’s a normal and healthy reaction to a breakup, and especially divorce, we shouldn’t let it eat us up entirely. No matter how much you loved (and still love) your soon-to-be-ex, we have to face the fact that life does go on. It may be painful now, but the best thing you can do is focus on your mental health and get through this the best way you know.
1. Get some rest
All the stress and drama coming about from the divorce will take its toll on your body. What you need to do is rest, recuperate, let your body and your mind heal. Now, we mentioned emotional rest already, but now we are emphasizing just how much physical rest is important.
Try to get at least eight hours of sleep every night, nap often, and try to take it easy. If you’re going to work out (more on that in a moment) do it because it feels good, because it will help you relieve some stress. Put your feet up, eat out for a couple of days guilt-free, conserve your energy. Maybe get a massage, visit a sauna, or spend a day in a spa resort.
2. Take your mind off of things
First things first – you need to get your mind off of all the drama. This is a very difficult time for you, and it’s quite normal to constantly think about the divorce, about what was, and what could have been. However, at some point thinking too much will just drive you insane.
Don’t feel guilty about having fun, about simply shutting your brain off. Watch your favourite movie(s), hang out with friends, read. Indulge yourself, give your mind a break with dumb TV shows, and cheap movies. As long as you take care of yourself physically, and stick to your obligations, there is nothing wrong with vegging out a bit.
3. Practice self-care
You’ve probably been trying to fix things for a while and divorce is stressful as is, so it’s very likely that you’re in desperate need of self-care. When was the last time you put your needs first and actually did something good for yourself? Self-care rituals are the basis of feeling good about yourself. Pampering yourself through hard times is the only way to stay sane, really.
In that spirit, take a long hot bath, go to a spa, book yourself a massage, and change your hairstyle. You should also devote some time to your skincare routine, too. If you keep up looking after yourself, your confidence is bound to go up as much as your mood. As well as all of that, you’ll be much happier with yourself and able to handle the period ahead of you.
4. Look for support
Finally, you should always look for support in people who care about you. Your friends and family are probably worried about you right now, even if they don’t show it openly. Don’t be afraid to reach out to them if you need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to listen. If you don’t think your friends and family will understand, find a support group. Sometimes it’s easier to reach out to someone who has gone through the same thing.
Others who are going through a divorce can understand your train of thought and emotions perfectly, as they are also experiencing them. They can also give you some advice on how to cope with things and you may even discover new techniques for healing that work for you.
5. Have some backup
When getting a divorce, your confidence isn’t really stable. You start to doubt you’re right even when you think you are and you’re not familiar with the system either. Pretty soon you have no idea what your rights are nor how you can protect your property. Let’s face it, dividing things up in the divorce is one of the most stressful parts of it. That’s why you should look out for companies like Johnstone Crouse Lawyers as they’re both experienced and caring.
Lawyers in firms like this will know exactly what you need to do and how you should deal with the situation. Not only does a lawyer help you get the most out of the divorce, but they also keep in mind how you feel about the whole thing. Your mental health is as important as getting the better end of the deal. With a lawyer, you’ll go through this period as painlessly as possible.
6. Get some exercise
If you are truly feeling ok physically, we suggest you do some exercise. It’s a great way to get rid of negative energy, releasing and lowering any tension you might feel. It doesn’t matter if you like lifting weights, or lots of cardio, or just two hours of yoga – get it all out.
After you are finished with your workout, you will feel refreshed, invigorated, and definitely relaxed. You will feel, and look better, which will also do wonders for your confidence. Having this type of small achievement behind you, a good, difficult workout, will do wonders for your motivation and your energy levels.
As you can see, divorce may be painful but it’s definitely not the end of the world. You are a strong and capable individual that will definitely get out of this okay and alive. Healing is a process that takes time and you won’t be okay for a while, but as long as you stay focused on being well and use good mental health practices, you’ll get out of this just fine. We’re confident that better times are ahead of you and that you’ll be able to cope with this stressful period.
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