The Purpose Of Your Relationships According To Shamanic Astrology & Ascendant-Descendant Axis…

The Purpose Of Your Relationships According To Shamanic Astrology & Ascendant-Descendant Axis

What is the purpose of our relationships according to Esoteric and Shamanic Astrology?

What do you need in love and in a relationship for your soul to fulfill its higher purpose and desire?

What is your soul’s intent in a relationship, so that you feel satisfied?

The stars are our guiding light; a way for us to tap into a higher purpose by opening up new doors for esoteric knowledge. Astrology is by no means something to live by or identify with – but rather to expand with and then make our own choices as new insights emerge to inform us. I say this as someone who has studied astrology for a long time, including Western, Vedic, Evolutionary, Shamanic and Esoteric Astrology, and in my own practice I don’t focus on what will happen but rather to gain insights and opportunities to evolve further spiritually; to empower us to align to our greater purpose and unveil the desires of our soul, which is what caused us to reincarnate. Astrology is meant to be used as a tool for awareness; our ascendant and natal blueprint were the energetic channel through which we entered the physical body as a soul. So what I find most useful is to guide people to focus more on the themes, purpose and personal development which can be found through the natal chart – rather than looking for specific predictions.

In this article, I’ll share insights from both Esoteric and Shamanic Astrology, as we unveil the higher purpose for our relationships in this life by looking at our 1st-7th axis. But first, what is Shamanic Astrology?

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Shamanic Astrology

Similar to Esoteric Astrology, Shamanic Astrology operates through an archetypal and mystical framework anchored in the universal truth “As Above, So Below”. Shamanism is one of the most ancient spiritual practices and it is based upon the core belief that everything is interrelated, interconnected and everything has its purpose when seen through a higher view. Its astrology aspect portrays this shamanic belief as it gives us a different perspective; one of deeper understanding rather than good or bad aspects and planetary positions. For example, many people say negative things about someone with Saturn in their 7th house or hard Venus-Saturn aspects and yet in Shamanic Astrology, these aspects often times have a protective nature; due to events in past lives, the hand of Saturn protects the native from getting married earlier to people who would eventually harm them and so, a better partner comes later on.

Shamanic Astrology is a kind of a ceremonial and connected approach to astrology with the intention of creating greater awareness to a person’s life purpose and their relationship to Great Mystery or God. Often times, it serves as an esoteric tool to validate and confirm what the person already knows or to strengthen their own senses and intuitive abilities. This allows and helps people in trusting their own inner knowing and inner process through a greater understanding of the mysteries that they have come to explore, develop and evolve.

The main purpose of Shamanic Astrology is to give us the understanding of our own intention, purpose and the cycles of initiation throughout our life. This approach provides a vision of the possibilities we are here to experience and empowers us to make more conscious choices – because ultimately astrology is only a tool and we are the once responsible for our own experience of this life.

The Relationship Axis: 1st and 7th house

In both Esoteric Astrology and Shamanic Astrology, the rising sign represents the desire that brought us to life. We incarnated in a physical body because we had unfulfilled desires from past lives and these desires generate the birth and the driving force throughout our life.

While our ascendant describes the path we need to follow to fulfill our soul purpose and who we are learning to grow into and become, our descendant describes our significant other and the committed relationships or marriage throughout our life. The 7th house also signifies our shadow side, which we need to integrate in order to fulfill our path.

We are holistic beings and as such we also embody the energy of our partner – but it is often a bit more unconscious. This is why our greatest lessons in life, on a spiritual level, are learned through our relationships.

Integrating The Shadow Self

The 7th house represents our inner partner. It is the image that we create for the kind of partner we want and are attracted to, which also includes all of our shadow sides that we haven’t yet integrated. In other words – our unacknowledged sides will often times be expressed through partners. Once we integrate our shadow, or our unconscious personal elements, through acceptance and allowance – we will be faced with less mirroring and will move towards a higher manifestation of our 7th house, including the partners that we attract and the quality of relationships that we experience. Actually, the 4th, 8th and 12th houses also feature a lot of our shadow side through our relationships with other people but that’s a different topic.

Our ascendant develops very early on in life when we are children and is made up of what we know about ourselves, what we want to be, what we identify as ourselves and what we want to be seen as. Our descendant develops around the same time and contains all that we are unconscious of or the parts of us that we don’t want to associate with. So in essence, we split ourselves in two yet it is always part of the same dance. Our descendant is both what we are attracted to and repelled by in other people – and in ourselves. Whatever we desire but we haven’t integrated within ourselves, we look for in others. We can’t really know our unconscious side – but we can experience it in flashes through others – which then allows us to integrate these parts of us when we acknowledge them to be true about our own selves. We have to allow ourselves to be comfortable with parts of us that maybe aren’t so “pretty”; the truth is that we all contain everything within us. This doesn’t mean we have to act on these qualities – but it means to be in allowance and humility that we hold them too – rather than always contributing them to other people.

We search for us in others. Once we integrate and come into connection within – then we start to experience the entirety of who we are and can experience a love of a much greater depth, which would transcend our own self. This will also allow us to be much more discerning about who we allow into our lives as partners rather than continuing to replay and relive old narratives; we will no longer settle for less because we won’t need someone to show us our shadow side. When we come into our wholeness, we won’t even be attracted to anyone who isn’t on our resonance anymore; we’ll be able to stay in our truth, aligned to our own higher purpose and stand on our own; and this is when we can enter into sacred relationships. Becoming our whole attracts another whole; and we experience something truly deep and fulfilling.

The Purpose of Relationships Through The Ascendant-Descendant Axis

Relationships are hard. But there is always a purpose and a common ground that we can tap into to experience a better, more mutual path ahead, which would satisfy both of our higher desires and dharma. Look at the sign of your ascendant-descendant axis and then, read below for a discussion on what you desire on a soul level to feel satisfied in your relationships in this reincarnation. Let’s say your ascendant is Scorpio, then look at the Taurus-Scorpio axis as it relates to both, vice versa. Remember – you are both in it together, so your energies will naturally merge.

If you are new to astrology, a few points to remember:

1) It doesn’t mean that your spouse/partner/lover would be the sign of your descendant; it only means that their qualities would align to that energy and you’ll experience the relationship through that energy. So if the descendant is Scorpio, you would be attracted to people who are more scorpionic and your relationships will be more scorpionic,; in its higher manifestation it would mean great passion, emotional depth, spiritual bonding even telepathy, and on the lower manifestation may revolve around themes of power, control and obsession.

2) The explanation below may not yet resonate with you; they usually become more apparent later on in life after you’ve gone through a few longer term relationships, as these are usually deeply seated desires, requiring learning about our own soul’s desire and walking our own truth of heart.

3) When it comes to synastry and compatibility, it doesn’t mean that both partners would have the same axis – but it would be important to be with someone who is just understanding and supportive of your own desires and needs.

4) Keep in mind that these are only general themes, as the house planets and their aspects will influence the energy and offer more precise insights.

Aries – Libra Axis

Relationship Purpose: Balance Between Independence and Co-dependence 

These two energies are quite different, so when they interact the relationship may be quite difficult compared to all the other axis. Aries is all about the “I” but their soul evolution would eventually go toward “the other”, as they learn to consider other people more than themselves within the relationship. On the other hand, the energy of Libra is all about “the other” and through their relationships they will learn to be a bit more independent and tone down their overly dependence on having a relationship. The mutual intent of this relationship axis is their personal soul journey through a relationship – as both learn to tone down some of their more extreme sides and yet stay authentic to their soul’s desire.  

Taurus – Scorpio Axis

Relationship Purpose: Transformation Through The Deepest Kind of Love; Mastering Life Force Energy 

This is the axis of life force, passion, sensuality and spiritual/physical bonding. On the one hand we have Taurus energy, which is all about experiencing the physical pleasure of life through the senses such as touching, smelling and tasting. And then we have Scorpio energy, which is all about experiencing the emotional depths of life and transforming themselves through the intensity of life force energy. When we combine these two, we have the deepest of desires for the ultimate soul-body-mind-heart merging. This axis is capable of experiencing the kind of love, which would transmute their entire being. It’s tantric. It’s ecstasy. It’s all or nothing. It’s everything. It’s ascension through the deepest kind of love, intimacy and sex. They transcend through sex – but sex is never just sex; these individuals would not be on dating apps and would be able to align to their higher purpose only when they are intimate with someone that they love and are emotionally and spiritually bonded with. Shallow relationships should be avoided. Usually in their younger years they’d prefer something more stable or carefree or even “open”; and yet for some reason they’d always attract intense partners and relationships. This is because they are meant to transform through this and be aligned to their own passions and vulnerabilities; they need to surrender to love completely. They need their souls and bodies to be in love. Their path to God is through experiencing a physical love connection, which is also emotional and spiritual; it is through learning how to master life force (sexual) energy and how to bring spirit into matter. If you have this axis, you need that kind of sacred love; the kind that would take you into the deepest realms of intimacy – both physically and emotionally, where you’ll experience yourself wholebodily and wholeheartedly. Touch and sex are very important to you and yet you can stay celibate for years if you are not in love. If you are in a marriage or relationship and your intimate life is not going well, you need to address this otherwise you may separate and distance yourself from your partner even further; you can try couples therapy or introduce some eroticism and imagination to your intimacy. You need to acknowledge these deep desires that you have within you because it is your soul’s intent to be passionate and experience itself through the surrender to deep love. You would not be satisfied with someone who isn’t your everything; you need intimacy on all levels – physical, emotional and spiritual. You need this to feel alive and you need to learn to surrender in waves of love. Your path to enlightenment is through learning to master life force energy and is often described as a tantric path; it is about learning how to feel all feelings, pleasures and passions. You are here to experience love in its deepest way. And you will. 

Gemini – Sagittarius Axis

Relationship Purpose: The Adventurous Quest For Truth

These free spirited adventurers are on a quest to discover their truths in this life. They need a lot of space as they need a sense of freedom and a space where they can cultivate their curiosity. This doesn’t mean they would never like to be in a marriage but these are the people who may feel comfortable in long-distance relationships and hold on to them for a long time. It’s not because they don’t care for their partner but because their souls need to explore and make their own quests for finding their truths and seek more knowledge. That’s just part of their curious childlike wonderful personality; they will always come back to their partners joyfully sharing their adventures and loving each other even more. Both would love traveling together and exploring but would also need time on their own to do their own exploring and traveling. So give yourselves the freedom to be who you are and allow one another to go on your own paths when you need to – it would of mutual benefit.  

Cancer – Capricorn Axis

Relationship Purpose: Our Home is Our Kingdom

The Capricorn is the provider and the father while Cancer is the nurturer and the mother. These two are in a way the pillar of society – and they are all about family even if they approach it from different channels. Many people who have these axis enjoy the traditional family dynamic though this doesn’t mean “traditional roles”. Even if they don’t fit the traditional style family, something in their approach would always have that undercurrent energy of providing and nurturing. Their deepest intent is building their supportive and warm home; the king will build the foundations of security and roof of protection while his queen will build the walls within which their love will be nourished and grown. They are here to learn about building and nurturing, harmony and stability, and they do this through creating a family and a home, whether physically or metaphorically. 

Leo – Aquarius Axis

Relationship Purpose: Empowering Each Other’s Individualities

These two are highly individualistic signs in that they are very autonomous. When vibrating at their highest, they don’t need someone else to complete them per se; they just need someone who can further empower them and lift them in their unique individualities. Both of them need to give each other the needed space but also support the growth in the other’s individuality. If you have this axis, you need a partner who will be supportive of your uniqueness. Co-dependency should be avoided at all costs as it would limit the growth of both partners. Even if you yourself don’t want that currently – maybe you’ll attract someone who constantly pushes you to be your own self and discover who you are. This may be because you are not aware yet that this is exactly what you need for your soul to be happy. For this axis remember that it is not about changing your partner – but about empowering them and supporting them in whatever they feel drawn to – so that they shine their own individual light. This is their unique path, as is yours – but you can both still walk side by side in love and support – for both of you will shine together.

Virgo – Pisces Axis

Relationship Purpose: Sharing Sacred Work

Our sacred work is the work we do, which brings us true joy through our contribution to others. It doesn’t have to be “work” – it can be gardening or anything that you can share with your partner where you’ll both feel purposeful. Both of these signs have a desire and a mutual intention of being in service to other people and when in a relationship, this is something that would make them bond to one another for a longer time while aligning them to their higher purpose. I know a woman with this axis who never wanted something like that even in her 30s; she always thought that passion is all she needed in her marriage. Eventually, she got divorced and she is now in her 40s where sacred work is something she is truly passionate about and she said that even looking back, she always felt happiest in her life when she would share some project or work together with a partner. With this new understanding, she is now able to experience more fulfilled relationships that are aligned to her own purpose.


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Lubomira Kourteva


Having lived across three continents, Lubomira is a Canadian author, poet, spiritual guide, humanitarian, and teacher of the Sacred Arts.…

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