Three Things Every Relationship Needs…

Three Things Every Relationship Needs

Anybody who has ever been in a relationship will tell you that it takes many things in order to make one work. Every relationship requires a strong bond between two people consisting of love, commitment, sacrifice, and a ton of hard work in order to keep it strong and alive. But these are just a few of the obvious elements you hear about so often that are required in order to keep a relationship going strong for many years to come, even more important in a marriage. There are three overlooked and under-rated things that I believe are just as important, if not more important, in order to keep a relationship from going sour. These three requirements are money, communication and respect, and if any of them are missing, you’re relationship is almost certain to be doomed.

A Lack of Finances

Many people won’t admit it, but money makes the world go round and is one of the biggest reasons why many couples fight and even get divorced. According to to recent study by Datingappsadvice couples that argue about finances at least once a week are more likely to get divorced. How many couples do you know of that don’t want to own a house, have a few kids, put some money away for college education for the kids, and save a bit for retirement and vacations? If you know of such a couple that doesn’t view any of these things as important, please tell me about them immediately, because they are the exception, not the rule. Every couple wants to have a great career so they can afford to buy a nice house for their kids to grow up in, but most of all to ensure that their kids have the things that they never had while growing up. They want to make sure their kids live in a good neighborhood where it’s safe, and go to schools where they get a top-grade education. Every parent wants their kid to learn from their example of setting goals and dreams for themselves and actually achieving them. Whenever money gets tight, it causes lots of stress and strain in a relationship, and that’s when the arguments begin. The rent starts to get way behind. There’s no money for food and clothing. Saving money for sending the kids to college is out of the question. If one person in the relationship goes out and spends a little bit of money on something personal, all hell breaks loose. These are many of the problems that occur when a couple struggles financially and can only get worse as time passes. Eventually, most end in divorce.

There’s No Communication

Whether you like it or not, you are constantly communicating with people no matter where you go, either verbally or non-verbally. You can send a message by the way you stand, facial expressions, tone of voice, and reactions to what other people say and do. The way you communicate with other people is very important, and even more important when you are in a relationship. Many couples break up when they fail to communicate. When something is bothering them, instead of talking about it, they hold it inside. This problem festers inside of them and nags at their mind until it consumes them. The problem finally reaches a point to which they can no longer hold it inside, but instead of talking about it, now they argue about it. Over time this cycle keeps repeating itself until finally all the couple does is argue. In the end, they have no choice but to break up in order to ease the stress and save their sanity. If only they would’ve addressed the problem when it was small, they might have had a chance at saving the relationship. Don’t let this happen to you. Talk already!

Where’s the Respect?

When a couple loves each other, they will listen to what the other one is saying. They don’t have to always agree or like what the other person is saying, but as long as they listen to what the other person is saying, it shows respect. The problem occurs when one or both individuals doesn’t listen to the other and start calling each other names or physically abusing each other. Another way to disrespect the one you love is by cheating on him or her. This person loves you enough to trust that you’re not cheating. If you truly respected this person, you’d tell the person you don’t want to be with him or her anymore or at least say you don’t want to be faithful anymore. When two people respect each other, they don’t call each other names or physically abuse each other. And they definitely don’t cheat. Respect usually comes from being in love, so if you disrespect someone, then you most likely don’t love them. Do you and the other person a favor and end the relationship so you both can find the right person and hopefully find true love, leading to, of course, RESPECT!

Every relationship is like being in a small boat out in the middle of the ocean during a bad storm. The waves may get high and rock the boat. Things may fall down all over the place. Eating and sleeping may be tough as hell. But if you hold on tight and don’t give up, the storm will eventually pass, finally leaving calm waters. It’s not the good times that are the real test of a relationship, but how you handle the bad times. If you are willing to put the time and effort into conquering the bad times, then you truly deserve to have the love and respect that you can only receive from another person who feels the exact same way about you. So don’t give up, and go get what you deserve.


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Alex Wise

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Alex Wise is a former software programmer with a degree. He studied marketing and economics at the University of Michigan.…

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