Does Real Love Exist?

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Does real love exist? Well, the answer to this question is as simple as the question itself.

Yes! Real love does exist, and under the right circumstances, it is impossible to miss or ignore its existence. How? Let us explore!

The first thing to do is understand what real love is.

Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan, an enlightened Spiritual Master explains, real love is that which neither increases or decreases. It means real love is that which remains constant under all circumstances. So then, why do people who love each other fight and get hurt by each other? To understand, let us break this down further.

There are two types of love – worldly love and pure love.

Worldly love is such that it gets affected by what the other person says, does or thinks. For example, if we have a friend whom we love dearly, and we learn one fine day that they have been cheating us for years and stealing our money secretly, will we still look at them the same way?

For most of us, it is difficult not to see the fault of our friend in such circumstances, and we are certainly likely to feel hurt and betrayed. This proves that our love towards our friend, however sincere it was in good times, was worldly love only.

Pure love, on the other hand, is not affected by the other person’s behaviour. The feeling of hurt or betrayal can never arise because there are no expectations maintained towards the other person.

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Is it possible to have absolutely no expectations towards another?

We may let go of gross expectations, that is, we may not expect our loved ones to go out of their way to care for us, or seek material benefits in any way. But we do expect them to do all they can to reciprocate our love, care for us in little ways, support us mentally and emotionally during our tough times, or at the very least, acknowledge our efforts towards their well-being. How can one become so detached as to let go of even such subtle expectations and still love the other person?

Well, detachment is verily the key word here.

True love, pure love, can only blossom in the heart of one who has no attachment to their worldly self or the worldly life in any way. They must have annihilated all inner demons of anger, pride, deceit and greed, and become the very embodiment of love. Only one who does not want anything can truly love another being. Therefore, such love can only be seen in a Gnani!

A Gnani is one who has become free from all desires, has transcended all inner weaknesses and limitations, and who lives in constant inner bliss, which cannot be affected by any internal or external circumstances. One who has met a Gnani can no longer mistake worldly love for real love, and can no longer fail to recognize the existence of pure love in any being!

For more information and detailed explanations, please read the book Pure Love (as expounded by Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan).