Bloom, Sister: Because Empowered Women Empower Women…

Bloom, Sister: Because Empowered Women Empower Women

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If there’s a thing I hate, it’s any plot- be it television, film, or literature- that utilizes a plot where women hate on other women. Nope, nope, nope. I am not here for that. I don’t want to see office gossip, groups of girls ganging up on other girls, or any other sort of behavior where women take other women apart. I definitely don’t want to see a plot where women fight other women for some man. Or woman. Or even a dog.

There’s a saying: empowered women empower women. It’s true. Women who are secure in themselves have no interest in stepping on the back of some other woman to get a man, a job, or even a pair of shoes that just went on sale. We’re not interested in making ourselves feel better by trashing a fellow female.

We realize that life is not a competition, and there is no winning. If we will all recall, the finish line is death. Getting to it first isn’t exactly an accomplishment. Getting to it last isn’t necessarily a measure of life quality. Accumulating possessions doesn’t really matter when we can’t take it with us. So this isn’t win, lose, or draw. It’s just live. And empowered women know this already.

What I love to see is women supporting other women. Think about drunk girls in bathrooms. This is my absolute favorite example of women supporting women. Even if you’ve never been drunk in a bathroom, maybe you’ve been in a bathroom with drunk women at some point in your life. If not, head to your nearest bar and check it out. Because drunk women in the bathroom are the most supportive people on the face of the earth. These women, even total strangers, become sisters in that moment.

These women watch out for each other. Feeling sick? Have a seat. I love your shoes! Where did you get that purse? Is that guy bothering you? Can I call you an Uber and get you home safe? The love and support that happen is unlike almost anything I’ve seen in a situation mostly involving strangers. People step up for each other. They don’t trash each other or try to compete. It’s all about lifting each other up and making sure everyone is safe.

It’s not just drunk women either. Empowered women do the same in their careers. They don’t try to keep an edge over everyone else. They’re actually more likely to reach out with a helpful tip or a job opportunity. They try to help other women go far in their career because they love it when other women succeed.

It’s the same in relationships, too. An empowered woman will never be hateful to another woman because she covets her relationship. She also won’t fight another woman for a partner. If there’s any cheating, she doesn’t automatically blame the woman rather than her partner. And an empowered woman doesn’t hold any ridiculous ideas that women don’t, or shouldn’t, enjoy sex. Nor does she hold a double standard for women that do or call anyone hurtful names based on their sexual partners or proclivities in the bedroom.

I will automatically turn off a movie or put down a book that pits women against other women. And I won’t participate in that in real life either. I would much rather be a support to the women in my life rather than the kind of woman other women avoid because she’s only looking out for herself and is quite happy to tear other women down on the way to what she wants. We recognize these women, and we avoid them if we can. Because we’re not about that life.

Empowered women do empower women. We don’t do it for accolades or to get ahead. We do it because we simply enjoy seeing other women reach their goals. We wish for the happiness of others, as much as for ourselves. Women like us? Women who are happy to band together to help each other? We’re going to change the world. (We already are.)

So bloom, sister. We want to see you grow. After all, there’s enough light for all of us to shine.


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Crystal Jackson


Crystal Jackson is a former family therapist who’s evolved into a spinner of stories and dreamer of dreams. She writes…

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