Bitterness Is Not So Sweet
The old adage “you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar” is so true and it can make everyone’s life, including your own, that much sweeter. Unfortunately, many people who feel resentment give up their happiness to whoever or whatever they are holding onto.
From a very early age, I felt that negative emotions were a complete waste of time. Even as a kid, I realized that those feelings didn’t get me anything but more negativity. In that bucket, I would put some of the biggies like anger, fear, frustration, rage, and resentment.
To this day I cannot (and will not) hold a grudge nor can I stay mad. It is just not in my makeup. Even when really crappy things have happened in my life, I never played that game,
My time here is too precious, and I choose happiness. Period.
Why waste time and energy on a person, situation or thing from the past? It’s over. I know it isn’t easy but there is always time to stop harboring old wounds and let go of the past.
Like a delicious soulful recipe, it just takes a little awareness, a lot of patience, some forgiveness and a hint of faith.
So when I was recently asked to write about bitterness and the effects it has on one’s life, I thought it was an interesting request. You see I have never truly felt bitter. However, I do know a few people whose lives are consumed with the past and it is NOT pretty. It sounds a bit like an affliction but in some ways, it is.
It is the epitome of dis-ease.
What is Bitterness?
Bitterness is one of those strangely elusive emotions that you can feel in the air but it’s hard to pinpoint. Although it can often be intense, the interesting thing is that bitter people never typically cop to it. Their actions, though, are a whole other ballgame. They speak loud and clear.
According to the Oxford English Dictionary, the definition of bitterness is as follows:
bitterness: sharpness of taste; lack of sweetness, anger, and disappointment at being treated unfairly; resentment.
This “lack of sweetness” can make it very difficult for that person to be around and in the end, do you know who suffers most? Not the person or the situation they’re obsessing about because they have most likely moved on. Nope. It’s the bitter person themselves and their loved ones who feel the pain. In fact, long-standing resentment can effect close relationships, physical and mental health, work life and more. The good news is that it is never too late to start anew, and no one is incapable of change. One of the most freeing things a person can do in life is let go. Just let go of it all – the pain, the memories, the hurt, the what-ifs, the comparisons, the jealousy – all of it.
Stop letting it control you. Isn’t it time to make your life sweet again?
Once you walk away from the hurts of yesterday, you will slowly return to who you inherently are. Not bitter but sweet!
Bitterness imprisons life; love releases it. Bitterness paralyzes life; love empowers it. Bitterness sours life; love sweetens it. Bitterness sickens life; love heals it. Bitterness blinds life; love anoints its eyes. – Harry Emerson Fosdick
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