“Beauty counts. It is basic to femininity. It is highly sought, cultivated and rewarded in women, but at what cost? Why are females worshipped as the fair sex? And why do so many wind up looking good but still feeling bad about their appearance. ” Rita Freedman,  Beauty Bound

Every girl wants to be beautiful but it is a mixed blessing. When women were considered property,  mothers used to scar their daughters so they would not be attractive to men. Now mothers groom daughters to please men. Girls also grow up feeling they are unless they are beautiful and can attract a man. But then they always wonder if that is why they were chosen.

I used to be beautiful and didn’t know it. Now I am overweight and old and people tell me I am still beautiful. They are talking about my new personality since coming to find out how much God loves me.

Usually women are afraid of growing old because they think they will lose their beauty. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I knew I was really loved by my husband  when he said nothing about the 65 lbs. I had put on.

Some women will disfigure themselves to be beautiful. If the 50’s women cut off  their small toe to fit into pointed shoes. Today, models have their ovaries removed to have a flat stomach. Plastic surgery is on the rise.

Some women lie about their age to attract a man. I call this  image management.

The bottom line is that we are all attracted to beauty of one kind or another. But we can cultivate our taste and plant new flowers in our garden. We can get to know people before we judge them. We can learn to appreciate inner beauty.

If this does not work,  we can still stop judging people for how  they look. We can also grow old gracefully as an example to others. We can resist the notion that there is only one standard of beauty. Even the look of models changes over the years. One year models are skinny and white and then they are black, tan, and full-figured.

If there is one thing I have learned about God it  is that he/she loves variety. I once saw a plaque on the museum that said, “A weed is just a flower whose potential has not been found.”

For me I just accepted myself for who I was and looked into the eyes of God and those who love me rather than the mirror on the wall. I discovered what my mother always told me: “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”


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Susan Peabody


Susan Peabody is a writer and counselor who likes to help people. She is also a spiritual advisor and life…

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