My Son Answers Questions From The Afterlife, May Edition…

My Son Answers Questions From The Afterlife, May Edition

Ask Erik is a spiritual advice column from the eternally twenty-year-old spirit guide, Erik Medhus. Through gifted medium/spirit translator, Kim Babcock, he directly answers readers’ questions on death, the afterlife, spirituality, the human experience, and more with the insight and wisdom he’s gained since his passing.

Hi Elisa and Erik,

I want to talk to my parents about my sexual orientation. I’m gay by the way. But it’s difficult for me because my mother is Catholic, and she has different ideas about this topic. My father comes from a male chauvinist family. I’m scared to reveal to them my real personality, and I don’t know where to start. The other reason that scares me is that my father helps me economically. I am an architect, but my real passion is to teach yoga and the money that I gain is not enough to pay the bills. 

I will appreciate some guidance from you because I’m lost, and I don’t know how to handle this situation. 

Thank you so much.

Juan Luis

Juan, before you can be truthful to your family, you have to LIVE truthfully for yourself. That means, be true to who you are. Be honest about yourself to yourself and to others. The more honest you can be with yourself, the easier it will be to be honest with your family. You might face judgments from all of them because it’s human nature to judge new information and to want to analyze and then try to rationalize, but don’t let that hold you back from being honest. Consider having a real talk with your dad about what love is to him. Respect his perspectives but show him a new light, new perspective. Be willing to expand your art in yoga to accommodate your financial needs. You need to get creative with it and expand it.

Hello!  First, let me just say I absolutely love you and Erik to pieces!  Your blog has been teaching me so many things, and I read things at least once a day while visiting; some things I instinctively knew and some that took me to a new level of spirituality. So thank you both! 

My question is for my mom. She has grieved for my Dad every day since 2012 when he crossed over.  I have seen my dad twice in dreams early on.  Mom always wonders why he never visits her, and I tell her because I don’t think she could handle the emotions of it and Dad knows that and won’t put her through it.  Can you ask Erik if I am correct and if my dad has a message he would like to send us?  Erik, I am confident you will channel me and know who my dad is, but his name is Ray.

Thank you so much!  Peace and love, people! 

Marie W.

Marie, your mom won’t be able to see or experience your dad’s presence around her until she gets as present as she possibly can. She is still stuck in the past, with “what could have been,” and she’s focused on his absence instead of his continued presence. Her emotions are still very involved, which makes her perception of his continued presence unclear. That’s why she doesn’t experience him like other’s experience their loved ones. She needs to work to be mindful and present. That will help dissolve the grief enough for her to see him and know his presence.

Hello Elisa! I am a first time asker, and I had a question I was hoping Erik could answer. I went on YouTube about a few weeks ago and listened to a self past life regression hypnosis. I saw myself in a past life as a man named John, and I was a carpenter with a wife and three kids. I know the number. The thing not to do is doubt answers that flow in my mind from my Higher Self, but I was wondering if I’m still connected to John even now because I always get images or responses in my head seemingly from someone else. Also thank Erik for comforting me when times get rough and I need to vent in the car to him about my day. 🙂

Melissa M.

Melissa, of course you are! Your consciousness can shift through dimensions and other realities, including your past lives. Your awareness is relative to your conscious state, and it can be expanded as well. Your other life selves are all a part of your collective, Whole Self, so when you hear chatter, it’s likely that you’re connecting to your Whole Self and hear guidance from your Higher Self, which collectively, is compiled of all other incarnations. The more you trust, the more you expand.  So, trust the inner/higher connection you’ve already made.

Hi Elisa!

A friend of mine recently died, and for the second time in my life, I fell asleep in the middle of the day around the exact time of death of a loved one.  During the time she was passing, I felt an overwhelming need to take a nap. Erik, you’ve mentioned that your mom has done this before but I am curious. Could I be helping my loved ones transition to the “Other Side”?  If not, maybe I need to get more sleep at night!  🙂


Bridget M.

Hey Bridget. Well, instead of thinking of the “time” connection, think of the soul connection. “Time” isn’t real, so it really doesn’t have anything to do with the time but rather just the soul connection. The reason you take a nap is because when you’re sleeping, you’re “conscious” spiritually speaking so there’s no time. That means your soul is present with them through the transition. If you were particularly close to or bonded to a loved one that transitioned, you’ll feel and know their transition. So, it’s because you two are connected and you feel their change in energy form. When a soul transforms, new energy emerges and the old energy (the body) dies. The process of the shift is what you feel, if you are empathically sensitive. The time stamp is just something you’re aware of in the physical, earthly plane.

Hi Elisa and Erik,

I have been dealing with a MRSA Infection in my 12 year-old Chocolate Lab’s face since Sept/Oct of last year. We did a susceptibility test and got him on an antibiotic that he has to take every 8 hours which we thought worked but now it’s back. I was curious if Erik had any suggestions of other ways to help or god forbid should I consider letting him go. 


Sheldon S.

Sheldon, the great thing about pets is their ability to be present, loving and compassionate. The hard thing is that you, the human, will have to take measures to ensure a good quality of life for the guy, and sometimes those decisions aren’t easy. Look into anti-fungal treatments but also look into collagen to heal the MRSA, too. When quality of life really begins to suffer, you should consider taking the measures you are responsible to take, as a pet owner, but you haven’t tried everything yet. You should try collagen.

My teenage son Alex is struggling socially and has been for some time. Does Erik have any advice? I am not really sure if Erik would have a way of tuning into his situation but I recently started reading your column. I know you’ve helped many others so I thought it wouldn’t hurt to ask. I would do anything in my power to help him.  Thank you!

Dana M.

Hey Dana, what’s up? Raising kids in this society can be hard, and teaching them their worth is even harder in a world that just compares all the time. I think for your son what’s most important is his ability to love himself deeply and accept himself completely. If he can do these things, then openness in social environments will naturally follow. The reason people have a hard time, socially, is insecurities and lack of complete self-acceptance. Teach him how to completely accept himself, and he’ll move through this. He first will have to be honest about why he’s insecure, socially. Is it his looks? Is he fearful of not being accepted? Have him reflect on why he needs acceptance from others and why he fears others’ expectations of him. Once he answers these questions, he’ll need to begin to do the work, to move through it. A therapist or even group therapy with peers can help.

My 47 year-old husband was just placed in hospice after a long battle with appendix cancer.  I asked him if he has any questions for Erik.  He wants to know how to prevent being trapped in limbo, or is there such a thing?

Thank you for all you do,

Ericka E.

Hey Erika! Well, there’s really no such place as limbo. When a soul transitions into the spirit realm, their consciousness will determine their experience. Remember, no one is separate, individual or alone, so, through the transition, full consciousness emerges, and awareness of all or access to it is automatic. Loved ones will guide his transition. Remind him that he is infinite energy that can’t be held, stuck or restrained in any way. He’ll naturally evolve through the transition process, so he doesn’t need to worry about getting stuck. I’ll be here for him.

I want to ask Erik what my purpose is. Does it somehow relate to my stuttering? Am I suppose to bring awareness and help those with the same condition?

Thanks again,

Amber S.

Hey Amber! Your purpose is your being; your mission is your doing. So that’s what we’ll talk about. Stuttering is the manifestation of a disruption in the energy pattern that causes a “hiccup” in the flow of your energy. This is a life contract though, and you’ll work through this. It doesn’t mean it’s a life long experience. As you work through it and minimize it, you’ll speak publicly to help others do the same. For now, focus on being as present as you can. You are not your experiences. Be present, and that will minimize the stuttering.

Hi Erik,

I wanted to ask about a person I met some months ago. It’s a person I “work” around, but I’ve never really talked to him. There is “something” about him. I feel like I bump into him more. Am I meant to work with him or something?


Candice M.

Hey Candice! You don’t need me to answer this. You’ve already had multiple run-ins with this person, and the reason why you’re asking is because you’ve already acknowledged the connection you feel, and now you’re looking for validation. Instead of questioning it, trust it. Trust what you feel, and take the leap to explore what you feel. You two keep bumping into each other because there’s a soul connection. It’ll develop into a friendship first, but to take it to the next level, you’ll need to strengthen your self-worth. There’s a potential for a romantic relationship if you can achieve that. Pay attention to your heart.

I’m a first time mom as of 3 months ago, and I’ve learned there is an endless supply of  information about babies. One common issue a large percentage of babies suffer from is colic. With all the technology today, doctors are still stumped. So, just what is colic? 

Thanks buddy,

Mindi B.

Hey Mindi. Yeah, this is a shitty situation for so many moms. Baby cries, mom feels helpless and baby can’t tell mom what’s wrong. Well, colic is simple. It’s just an intolerance or an allergy. The reason why doctors can’t figure it out is because the allergy is different from one baby to the next. There are so many milk forms with so many ingredient variables, and that’s what makes it hard to trace. Newborn babies are using their digestive systems for the first time, even if it is just milk, and it’s a natural process for some who just have a sensitive system.

I would like to know what Erik’s take is on the jail system worldwide. I know our societies are safer by having delinquents and criminals put away and throwing away the key, but I’ve always thought that anyone can make mistakes and we all deserve another chance. My big dilemma comes when I think about those who enjoy committing crimes. So how do we separate them from the ones who are really repentant? I would like Erik to propose what would the best alternative for all law breakers. If it is brilliant, as usual, let’s all pray for this to happen sooner than later.
Regards and thanks.

Mario A.

Hey Mario. Well this question is a matter of perspective and opinion, but since you’re asking, I’ll share. Jail systems globally aren’t effective in rehabilitation or restoration of a healthy, well-functioning human. Most jail systems are so poorly structured and devoid of restorative programs that the environment facilitates the growth of a criminal mind. Jail systems don’t have enough funding on a regular basis to implement rehabilitative programs and even follow-through programs. Some who work in jails are aware of the lack but are too afraid of the inmates and their acquaintances on the outside to make any real changes. This system won’t last much longer anyways in the human race. New consciousness is emerging, and the way of life is changing.”

Erik Medhus is an eternal twenty-year-old young man who passed away on October 6, 2009. From his new place in Heaven, Erik’s main occupation is as a spirit guide who helps those who struggle with their human experience, and he is the inspiration and contributor to the Channeling Erik blog and community. With candor, sincerity, and humor, Erik shares his own full story, My Life After Death, A Memoir from Heaven (September, 2015).

An internist in Houston for over thirty years, since her son’s suicide in 2009, Dr. Elisa Medhus retired her practice and has written a book about her continuing relationship with him, My Son and the Afterlife: Conversations from the Other Side (October 2013) and has created a blog,, that has over 30,000 subscribers and over 250,000 hits per month. Read the blog daily to catch the next call out for questions for the Ask Erik column. Subscribe to their Facebook Page, Channeling Erik.

Psychic medium Kim Babcock has been developing her spirituality for the past ten years. Kim’s spiritual path led her to become an ordained minister and founder of Serenity- Mind Body Spirit LLC in mid-eastern Ohio, where Kim currently practices her psychic medium services and level II Reiki. She also leads meditation classes and spiritual development workshops. Learn more at


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An internist in Houston for over thirty years, since her son’s suicide in 2009, Dr. Elisa Medhus retired her practice and has written a book about her continuing relationship with her deceased son, Erik, <a href="">My Son and the Afterlife: Conversations from the Other Side</a> (October 2013.) With candor, sincerity, and humor, Erik shares his full story, <a href=""> My Life After Death, A Memoir from Heaven</a> (September 2015). Together they have created a blog, <a href=""></a>, that has over 30,000 subscribers and over 250,000 hits per month.

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