Ask Erik June Edition…

Ask Erik June Edition

Ask Erik is a spiritual advice column from the eternally twenty-year-old spirit guide, Erik Medhus. Through gifted medium/spirit translator, Kim Babcock, he directly answers readers’ questions on death, the afterlife, spirituality, the human experience, and more with the insight and wisdom he’s gained since his passing.

Thank you guys so much, your work is awesome. My question is: I think you’ve pranked me a few times, Erik. Would that be right? Love connection through the veil.

Have a good one!

–Barb S.

Hey! What’s up Barb? Well, I try to make my presence known as much as I can, (He says while laughing to himself) and trust me, it never gets old when I get to watch you and others react when you realize what’s happening. You’re evolving, keep it up.”

Hi Elisa and Erik,

I am a daughter, wife, and mother. With that said, I am wondering if is it possible that some people (like myself) are just not capable of feeling love? I am told I am loved, but I just don’t know. Not sure what I should expect to feel, or maybe I am expecting too much, but is that a possibility that some can’t really feel a deep connection of love?

Thank you for taking my question!

–Michelle M.

Michelle, so many people can relate to feeling this way. It’s not that you’re not capable of feeling it, but instead, you, at the soul level, have realized what love is, so you don’t personally need validation through it. Now, to bring it back into your consciousness so you can feel those deep connections, here are a few tips that should help. As much as you can, move away from your expectations in what you think that should feel like. Go outside your comfort zone and hold space for others. This means to be with them, exist with them without expecting to feel anything in a certain way or judging anything, just being. To not feel something is a lack of presence. Work on feeling before thinking about something or someone. That will help. Remember, it’s not a lack of capacity, just a lack of awareness.

Hi Elisa and Erik,

I would just like Erik to tell me what I need to know;)

Thanks so much!

–Kim M.

Ha! Funny you should ask, Kim, because there is never really anything that you NEED to know that you aren’t already present with because if it was supposed to be a part of your conscious, it would be. Instead, maybe just the understanding that timing is perfect and that you’ll always have what you need to get through each moment in life!

Hi Erik,

I live in the UK but have always had a deep connection with America. I’ve never really felt at home in my country. I have feelings for an American man, and we share a lot of the same interests. Please could you tell me if my destiny is to move to America?

Thank you so much,

–Jemma G.

Hey Jemma! I can definitely tell you what you’ll end up doing, and I will, but first you have to remember that nothing is really written in stone and unchangeable. That’s because of free will. If we didn’t have free will, then yes, everything would be robotic, and you’d have no say towards your destiny. Consciousness is your gift, and using it to create your destiny is the ultimate achievement in life. So, don’t forsake your personal power, your ability to define your destiny. Instead create it. You will end up in America, and, just food for thought, perhaps the yearning is your destiny, calling you!

Hello, Elisa! Hello, Erik!

First of all, thank you ALL for everything that you do for all of us. You are all greatly appreciated. I think I met my twin flame (Tina) 4 years ago. We have been in and out of contact with each other over these past four years. We are now back in contact. I feel more spiritually connected with her now than ever before. Erik, can you tell me if she truly is a twin flame? If so, when will we be reuniting again? Thank you all so much! 

Much love to you all,

–Jen S.

Hey, hey Jen! Well, timelines are hard for me to determine for so many reasons. Free will is a big variable. Free will of two different people who are indecisive make it even harder. Your feelings of spiritual connectedness aren’t just related to the concept or idea of a twin flame, but really, it reflects your own personal expansion. You’ve moved into a higher vibrational field, so you experience her differently now. You’re more in tune you could say. The problem with the idea of a “twin flame” is that so many people believe there’s only one, but there’s not. They are soul family, a part of your soul group. So think more openly about her as a twin flame yeah, sure, but more as soul family.

My question for Erik is why isn’t my 7 yr-old daughter sleeping through the night?  She wakes up EVERY NIGHT at different times lasting over 5 months now.  Then she goes to sleep well.  I have saged the house several times.

Greatly appreciated!

–Heather H

Heather, your daughter’s sleep patterns are regulated by the pineal gland. So take care to improve the health of the pineal gland, and then the hormones it releases will help regulate her sleep and wake cycles. Vitamin D will help her, too. You can Google other ways to help the health of the pineal gland.

Hi Elisa and Erik,

Recently I’ve started to feel as though my current job is not where I should be, however if I do start to look for a new job, I do not have a direction as to where I should go next. Do you feel leaving my job would be a good move? Should I stay with my current company and just find a different position or move on to a new company? And if I do leave my current company, what career do you see me moving to and being happy with? I’ve never had a clear vision of “what I wanted to be when I grew up,” so any answers will be helpful.

Thank you!

–Kristen L.

Well Kristen, you know the old saying goes, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.” Well, it’s true. I can help you, but if you can’t name to yourself the things that make you happy, then anything I share with you will feel impersonal and unreachable to you. You’ll begin to live for me and what I say rather than for yourself. So first, work on being able to name or list those things to yourself. You’ll be making a change soon, by the fall probably.That’s because you’re beginning to recognize the shift in consciousness, and you’re becoming aware of the change within you of what makes you happy. Honor that and let your heart lead you.

Is it true that we essentially have a contract when we reincarnate regarding how long we will stay? For example, one is meant to die at the time they do and changing the circumstances would not have stopped the fact that in one way or another that person would die.   

–Patricia R.

Patricia, the general timeline, yes. It is absolute? Not always. We always have free will at our disposal to change things as we want. So even though someone may be “meant to die” at age 25 of a drive-by shooting. Through free will, that person may chose to drink and drive at the age of 18 instead of waiting for the exit point that person planned before incarnation.

Good afternoon. My name is Patricia. I had a dream of my mother coming to say her final goodbye when I was 21. We were walking down a beautiful green path with the sun shining through the trees. Anyway, I can’t for the life of me remember what she said to me, but I know it was real as I believe strongly that life is eternal.nWhat did my mother say? I have never dreamed of her since.

Love from a big fan,

–Patricia E.

Patricia, it’s not always important to remember what someone said but really how it made you feel. If you felt a real connection in that dream, let that be the meaning instead of getting hung up on words. The intimate interactions you have with your loved ones need no explanation, just acceptance.


My question is this: Is there anything significant that Erik would like to share with me or tell me at this time? I’d really love to leave it open and up to him.  

Thank you to all of you for what you do and give. I could go on but I will keep it short. CE is awesome and life changing. 

–Gianna C.

Gianna, always try to remember that your body and your physical health, through presence, will always be what you tell it that it is. So don’t convince yourself of your age. Instead, tell yourself that you are timeless. That, in itself, will remove many battles.

Hello Elisa and Erik,

I am having a difficult time getting ready to let my son Matthew start kindergarten. I am terrified of violence, bullying, diseases, etc. Is my son going to be okay?

Thank you,

Sarah L.

Sarah, in worrying about all the “what if’s,” you’ll create a severe lack of presence. Your son, like all other children, will be equally exposed to the world. Analyze your attachments to the “what if’s” and work though them. Your attachment to your fear creates that severe lack of presence, and if you continue this way, you’ll miss being there for your little guy. You’ll miss it all because you were so wrapped up in your fear. Your son will do great, and his ability to succeed will ease your mind.

Hello and thank you! I am struggling with how to share the diagnosis of my terminal illness with loved ones. I have chosen to forego treatment at this time because I want to maximize quality of life over length. My faith in God and our eternal life in spirit allows me to contemplate this transition with a great sense of peace. But our medical and societal expectations set us up for weeks, months or years of suffering at the end of life. 

I have always known that death is a part of life; that I would not live to be elderly; and that disease is sometimes just a way to get to Heaven.  I wish to die a natural death, which I know will be in perfect divine timing. My question is how to best convey this news and this decision so as to not offend or even frighten those I care about. Just asking Erik for guidance or words of wisdom to share with my friends and family.

–Mary M.

Mary, share your heart with them just like you did here. You already have the words to gently share the news; you did so in this submission. Now, invite the softened, energetic guidance through your communication process, and the right words will be spoken through you to your family and friends to be delivered in a way that your loved ones can understand and accept. The peace that you’ve obtained in this will transmit to them.

Erik Medhus is an eternal twenty-year-old young man who passed away on October 6, 2009. From his new place in Heaven, Erik’s main occupation is as a spirit guide who helps those who struggle with their human experience, and he is the inspiration and contributor to the Channeling Erik blog and community. With candor, sincerity, and humor, Erik shares his own full story, My Life After Death, A Memoir from Heaven (September, 2015).

An internist in Houston for over thirty years, since her son’s suicide in 2009, Dr. Elisa Medhus retired her practice and has written a book about her continuing relationship with him, My Son and the Afterlife: Conversations from the Other Side (October 2013) and has created a blog,, that has over 30,000 subscribers and over 250,000 hits per month. Read the blog daily to catch the next call out for questions for the Ask Erik column.

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Psychic medium Kim Babcock has been developing her spirituality for the past ten years. Kim’s spiritual path led her to become an ordained minister and founder of Serenity- Mind Body Spirit LLC in mid-eastern Ohio, where Kim currently practices her psychic medium services and level II Reiki. She also leads meditation classes and spiritual development workshops. Learn more at


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An internist in Houston for over thirty years, since her son’s suicide in 2009, Dr. Elisa Medhus retired her practice…

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