Ask Erik December Edition

Ask Erik

November Edition

By Elisa Medhus, M.D.

Ask Erik is a spiritual advice column from the eternally twenty-year-old spirit guide, Erik Medhus. Through gifted medium/spirit translator, Emanuelle McIntosh, he directly answers readers’ questions on death, the afterlife, spirituality, the human experience, and more with the insight and wisdom he’s gained since his passing.


I am currently working at an elementary school as an aide, and just when I feel myself making progress with my client, he regresses again. What else can I do to help him and where do you see me going in this field of work?

Megan K

Hello Megan! There are deeper traumas that have not been dealt with and have been repressed. Don’t try to fix or push him, but try to find the underlying problem and feed it with love, understanding and healing. Let him know that you’re there for him without putting any pressure on him. Pressure makes him shut down and hide, so allow him to just talk about anything he wants to talk about and see where these conversations lead. Patience and love always lead to healing and progress. Regarding the job, introducing mindfulness will not only help you but will also help your career.


I would like to know if the reason that I am still single and alone after all these years is because my sister-in-law put a curse on me when she took me to see a Middle Eastern psychic in Jordan. And if so, is it related to the dark figure I saw hovering over my ex-husband’s body while he was sleeping?


Dear Torrie, first of all, curses don’t exist. They’re created by the mind of the person who believes they exist, and so when you believe that you’re cursed, you, yourself, will manifest that into your reality. You’re a person with a lot of fears, especially when it comes to the unknown. The mystery of life frightens you, and therefore you emit a constant vibration of fear and lower vibrations, creating a reality of constant discomfort and instability. Release the excess of fears that you’ve created for yourself for so long and replace them with faith, acceptance and unconditional love for you and for Source. Trust that you’re the creator of your own reality and therefore are responsible for your discomforts. And when you fully take that responsibility and own that truth, you will then be able to turn things around and start creating what you do want instead of constantly attracting what you don’t want. What you send out, you receive back, so work on that and all will fall into place.


What changes do I need to make to my home to make it a more harmonious place?

Thank you for this opportunity! Best wishes,

Sara T.

Hello Sara. Let’s take a look at what harmony is. Harmony is a feeling of peace and cohesiveness. It’s all about creating a way to establish a sense of calmness throughout your entire home that makes your life a little bit better. But just as everything is connected with energy, your home is connected to you. Your home is an extension of your body and spirit, and so whatever energy you send out will also be absorbed by your home. Your space reflects and affects your inner life. So infuse your home with space by getting rid of unnecessary clutter and add lots of light and nature elements like plants, crystals and minerals. Don’t forget to infuse your home spaces with love, happiness and prosperity. One way to do this is to give it a ceremonial cleansing with sage and act with an intention to send your space love and harmony. Then you’ll notice that the space will start to align with those high vibrations and start feeling cozier every day.


Hi Erik! It’s Amber here. I’ve been feeling you around me lately and hope it’s not just wishful thinking. My question is about the current relationship with my boyfriend. He’s the father of my two children, and I really do love him unconditionally. He’s been a knight in shining armor in my life. Not to sound stupid, but he is just so great and patient with me. But recently, more so this last year, I’ve been feeling very off with our relationship like not really wanting to be romantically invested. Why is this? Is our contract done or just changing? I’m just so confused! I try to explain my feelings to him, but it just freaks him out.


Amber S.

Hello Amber. The reason you’re starting to feel different about the relationship is because you’re changing energetically and moving into a new direction of spiritual growth and expansion. As spirits, we’re endlessly changing and expanding, therefore always experiencing a change of energetic frequency and constantly readjusting our dreams and expectations of life. The fact that your boyfriend can feel that change scares him and change has always been hard for him. He likes routine, comfort and safety, and you like to see change and evolution in a positive direction. Does that mean this relationship has to end? Absolutely not! It just means that you have to redefine this relationship and change your perspective towards him and towards the relationship. You also need to try to experience it as a journey of unconditional love, respect and mutual growth. Try and grow together into a new direction that matches you both, reinvent your current relationship and challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zones and explore new experiences together. Challenge each other to surprise one another and do the things you always wanted to try but never did. But do it together so you can get to know each other again in a different light. Go and explore again, sweetie.


Which of my clair senses is strongest, and should I focus more energy there or on a different one?

Much love and peace,

Kelly Y.

Hello Kelly. First of all, you know that you are here to learn to fully trust your intuition and your feelings. You’re very sensitive to energies and therefore very emotional. And so with this understanding, I’m sending the question back to you. Giving you the answer would simply deny you from completing the self-discovery contract that you’ve created for yourself. So the question to you is: What do you feel the most comfortable with? Which senses do you use without even thinking about it when you first meet a person or a new location? What is the first thing that turns on for you? You already know the answer, sweetheart, so now all you need to do is start trusting yourself and the team around you. Follow what feels good to you and you will always be headed in the right direction to enhancing your connection.


When we pass away and some time has passed, does our consciousness/our focus really remain in the afterlife or do we only exist there when called upon like a loved one who paid a psychic medium for a reading?

Adrienne F.

Adrienne, this is not easy to explain because certain concepts are hard to comprehend from a human perspective but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. Our consciousness is pure energy and is one with All That Is. Also energy cannot be created nor destroyed; it can only be changed from one form to another. Now combine that with the understanding that time is not linear and doesn’t exist in the afterlife. That means that all of our consciousness exists in their individuality and are always merged with their Higher Self or Source. What you also need to understand is that you’re your Higher Self. You’re always part of the collective even when you’re in a human life, so when your consciousness goes back Home, you’re still part of the Whole, but this time you remember that you’re not just one consciousness but that you have hundreds of consciousnesses all into one Source, and they’re still all you and you remember all those lives as well. So the short answer would be that all of us, including every consciousness ever created, will always be no matter how much “time” passes. We are omnipresent.


What would be most helpful for me to know, do or understand in my quest for finding peace, fulfillment and happiness, and is this something I can achieve any time soon?

Thank you so much and lots of love to you and your family,

Maria M.

Hi Maria! Finding peace, fulfillment and happiness really starts with changing your perspective about the definition of happiness. True, lasting happiness begins with appreciation for what you have or gratitude for “what is,” and that relies on your ability to let go of the need for perfection and the need to be right. Your happiness needs you to let go and let life unfold instead of trying to manage and control it. Focus on excellence instead of perfection. In everything you do, simply do your best. If your best isn’t good enough, you still have the satisfaction of having done your best and a great barometer for what needs improvement for the next time. Embrace life’s ridiculousness, uncertainty, and surprises with a playful attitude.

Also, let others be who they are. There’s something wonderful about letting people sprinkle their own flavor onto your life. What can you learn from them? Embrace learning for what it is: a never-ending joyful discovery.

Be sure you simplify, too. Think about what in your life is causing you stress. What expectations do you have that are unrealistic? Where do you expect perfection when it’s highly unlikely that you will experience that perfection?

Finally, look around you. See the beauty, practicality, usefulness, happiness and freedom in the imperfect. Choosing to see beauty in imperfection just makes what you see a whole lot nicer to look at. Work on all of that and true, lasting happiness will be right around the corner.


Will the earth shift occur in 2024 or 2028 and flood East Texas?

Monica G.

Hello Monica, the answer is no. The shifting of the earth is a very slow process that happens gradually over thousands of years. However, the physical poles are shifting but again this happens gradually so you’re never going to experience one tragic “doomsday” as certain people are assuming. At the moment, the magnetic poles are slowly changing. The North Pole, for example, has been shifting by up to 20-30 Km a year and is now slowing down again. Because of these polar changes, huge energy shifts occur that generate sometimes turbulent changes in our weather systems and patterns. All kinds of climate changes will occur over the next few years and that includes floods, storms, volcanic eruptions and so on, but when it comes to land completely disappearing underwater and not resurfacing, that won’t happen for hundreds of years. So just keep sending Mother Earth love and healing to keep her healthy and loving because when she is happy and balanced, then so are the creatures living with her.


My dad died by suicide last Christmas. Can you ask him if he has anything he would like to say to me?

Thank you,

Jade M. in Ireland.

Jade, your father wants to let you know that he loves you and that he is sorry for all the pain he’s caused you and the family. However he is not regretful for his action because it was his time to go and lead you and the family to a spiritual quest for understanding and acceptance. He says, “We all make choices in life and are fully responsible for the way they affect our future. Don’t let my choices take away the joy and light inside of you. I’m seeing everything from a different perspective now, and I’m helping everyone to stay true to themselves. Please let go of the anger and feelings of disappointment you have toward me and replace it with acceptance and unconditional love. I’ve made many decisions in my life that felt were grave mistakes, and I apologize for the hurt these have caused you, but now I understand that there are no mistakes, only lessons that lead to experience and expansion. Live life to the fullest. There’s so much to be grateful for. Allow me to help you heal your heart with love and light. You’re perfect in every way, so fill yourself with love and all will be good.”


What is the easiest way to cleanse your pineal gland to see clearer beyond the veil?

Andrew A.

Detoxification is a two-part process, Andrew. First you need to insure that no further calcification takes place, and at the same time you need to start reversing the calcification that has already occurred. This requires some lifestyle changes. The most important one is drinking pure, fluoride-free water. Fluoride is commonly found in most municipal water supplies as are pesticides. These accumulate in the pineal gland more than any other part of the body. The accumulation of fluoride forms crystals, creating a hard shell around the pineal called calcification. Here are some tips that I hope help you and the other readers:

  • Drink filtered water to eliminate not only fluoride but also toxic metals like mercury.
  • Use fluoride-free toothpaste.
  • Stop taking calcium supplements with synthetic calcium.
  • Avoid using nonstick cookware with PFOA and PFC.
  • Eat organic, whole foods, and avoid processed foods and foods sprayed with pesticides.
  • Stop the intake of sugar, caffeine, tobacco and alcohol.
  • Include spirulina, raw apple cider vinegar and pure cacao in your diet. These are great for the pineal gland.
  • Finally, oregano oil is a wonderful way to detoxify and encourage pineal gland activation and clarity.

Once the pineal gland has been detoxified, we can then reactivate the full potential of the third eye. A simple way of doing this is through meditation and visualization. Focus on the area of your third eye during your meditating and visualize a bright light or eye is opening and connecting to Source energy. You’ll then start feeling tingling sensations or pressure. This means the activation has begun.


Erik Medhus is an eternal twenty-year-old young man who passed away on October 6, 2009. From his new place in Heaven, Erik’s main occupation is as a spirit guide who helps those who struggle with their human experience, and he is the inspiration and contributor to the Channeling Erik blog and community. With candor, sincerity, and humor, Erik shares his own full story, My Life After Death, A Memoir from Heaven (September, 2015).

An internist in Houston for over thirty years, since her son’s suicide in 2009, Dr. Elisa Medhus retired her practice and has written a book about her continuing relationship with him, My Son and the Afterlife: Conversations from the Other Side (October 2013) and has created a blog,, that has over 30,000 subscribers and over 250,000 hits per month. Read the blog daily to catch the next call out for questions for the Ask Erik column.

Subscribe to their Facebook Page, Channeling Erik.

Emanuelle McIntosh is an internationally known intuitive medium, spiritual life coach and meditation teacher in the Sakyamuni Spiritual Center in Heule, Belgium. Together with her energy healer husband, Gerald McIntosh, she started their center with the dream of teaching those of all ages how to heal themselves and find peace and happiness by introducing wholeness and mindfulness into their daily lives and by reawakening inner spiritual awareness. Learn more at and be sure to check out her Facebook page,


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