Spiritual Advice Column: My Son Shares His Insights From The Afterlife…

Spiritual Advice Column: My Son Shares His Insights From The Afterlife

Ask Erik: April Edition

By Elisa Medhus, M.D.

Ask Erik is a spiritual advice column from the eternally twenty-year-old spirit guide, Erik Medhus. Through gifted medium/spirit translator, Kim Babcock, he directly answers readers’ questions on death, the afterlife, spirituality, the human experience, and more with the insight and wisdom he’s gained since his passing.

SEE ALSO: The Death And Afterlife Of Erik


Hi! I wanted to ask Erik if he could talk to my Higher Self or my guide because I’ve lost my direction. I don’t know where to move forward in my career. I cannot find peace until I have direction. Please. I feel like I’m sinking in moments.

Thank you,


Hi Janet. I know how you feel. First things first though. Recognize that peace comes when you surrender to the world around you. Right now, you are facing every day with the need to control the outcome of each moment. Surrender to that desire, and the feeling of disappointment will cease to exist. It takes practice and a lot of energy though. You have to work at surrendering. Don’t misunderstand me; this is not the same as giving up. It means surrendering the fight. If you are resistant in your career in any way, you are disabling the possibility for change to occur. So, instead of wanting the control over where or how to move forward in your career, surrender the need for that control and allow change to unfold. Peace doesn’t come from knowing what is next; peace comes from trusting yourself. Trust the decisions you make for yourself. Also, know that direction doesn’t come from the Universe. You have to tell the Universe what you want and allow those changes to come in. You are your own source of direction. The Universe will just match the energy you give it so changes can manifest.

Before you make your decisions, you have to connect to your heart and ask yourself (not others) what it is that you really want and like. In that decision-making process, ask yourself for approval and advice rather than expecting that from others. Don’t forget to be patient with yourself, though. Again, the most important thing I want you to take from this is that your peace has to come from within, not from the outside.  

To Kim, Erik says, “ I hope she understands what I’m trying to tell her. She has to rely on herself and trust herself. She has a real struggle with that.”


Dr. Medhus,

My son recently passed away, and your Channeling Erik blog is quite intriguing. I discovered you and your blog after reading your book. You actually calmed me down after 3.5 weeks of pure tears! I was very, very close to my son, Spike Brandon, and I’m hoping to connect with him soon. My question for Erik is, “Are there sports at Home (Heaven)?” Everyone talks about love and learning about themselves, the spirit, pets and their beliefs, but what if our child loved sports? Just curious and I know how out of the ordinary it is to ask. It’s just such a huge pastime and love in our family: their sports, their team, the laughter and spirit when playing. I know you can imagine and see who you want when at Home or think of a place and you are there, but I just wondered about other pastimes there.

Thank you for your time,

Lauren S.

Hi Lauren! This is awesome! Not only are there sports in Heaven, but you can literally manifest any type of sports experience you want. If your son loved basketball, he can play it here, but it’s more of an emotional experience than a physical one like it is there on Earth. We have all sorts of things you can do, and all it takes are your thoughts to create and to become a part of that experience. The only limit is your imagination. For example, if you want to be alone shooting some hoops, then you can manifest that experience for yourself, but if you’d rather be at a game, playing or watching, you can manifest that, too. That takes being a part of a collective consciousness.  

Souls can take time to work on themselves for higher development, and sometimes part of that very development involves sports. It’s all about what it does for you, energetically. Ever think that maybe golf is a form of meditation? It’s true. Any sport can be considered meditation because it’s what connects you to your Higher Self. Ever notice how someone might go shoot some hoops to burn off some steam? That’s their meditation. It helps them channel their negativity and connect back to their Higher Self. So with that in mind, there really is no limit to what kind of experience you can create here, sports included!

Kim said, “He wanted to go on and on and on about this one!”


Hi Elisa. I always appreciate you, Erik and those who deliver his messages (Kim, Jamie, Robert, etc.)  I also try to pass on the learning and connection to extend your reach 🙂

Understanding that the word “soulmate” does not always imply romantic partnership, have I met or interacted with mine in this incarnation?  I’ve had other feedback and am curious as to what Erik has to say. If I haven’t yet met him or her, does Erik have any insight as to how and if it will happen in this lifetime? I know I can’t (and don’t want to) orchestrate the occurrence if it still remains to happen, but I’m purely curious.

Ever grateful to all of you – joy and blessings!

Julie S.

Julie! Ah, yes. So many have asked this question. Here’s the deal. The word soulmate is highly misused and misunderstood nowadays. Soulmate, from our perspective, means a soul contract, a partnership. It can be a romantic relationship, but it’s not limited to that. Best friends can be soulmates, and even animal companions can be soulmates to humans. It’s all about how the souls interact and whether they have contractually agreed to be a part of each other’s lives to foster development. Soulmates are also seen as a part of your soul group or soul family.

Julie, you are asking me if you have met your romantic soulmate yet, and I can tell you that you haven’t yet, but you will within one year. My best advice for you is to not envision how and when it will happen because then you will block all other opportunities for it to occur. Allow it to happen naturally instead. In the meantime enjoy your other soulmates!


I don’t need the answer to this because I just feel it, but I ask this for my dad. If God/Spirit/Source is everything and we are part of that, then where does the learning come in? Isn’t everything already known and felt? Why would we spend lifetimes learning? Erik, if you could explain that in a way that my philosophical and logical dad could understand, then that would be great!

Thanks! I love you!

–Jessica P.

Jessica, there is a lot that goes into this question and answer for you and your dad, so I’ll try. ( Laughing) Your dad is very stubborn and fixed on his ideas and concepts. He’s a tough shell to crack.

First of all, we are all from the exact same source, God Source. We are all the same, just expressed differently, but because we are all the same and a part of God, that doesn’t mean we have nothing to learn. God Source knows everything conceptually, but not experientially. You might get an idea about what a brownie is by looking at a picture of it and reading its recipe, but you have to bake one and taste it to really understand what a brownie is on a deeper level. You also might understand the concept of hot, but until you feel cold, you won’t understand it fully. You might understand the concept of forgiveness, which is a facet of love, but you will understand it completely if you experience betrayal.

Think of it like this for just a sec: We are always developing and growing because in that, we get closer to God and that higher vibration and we are all different expressions of God. God Source energy is also a vibration that is continually growing, sort of feeding from what we give It through our experiences and the contrasts they involve. What we experience and learn is information, and that information is given back to God. So God is learning through us. It’s not that God needs our experience to grow and learn. It just learns the different dynamics of Itself through us, expressed as an aspect of It. You follow?

The learning comes in from the human experience. That is a lower vibration that is not capable of completely staying attuned to the full capacity of awareness that you have while in spirit form. Humans can achieve enlightenment and awareness but not to the full capacity that you can while in spirit form. Sometimes, as humans, we don’t always learn what our soul is trying to accomplish. It can take multiple lifetimes, but the experience is the valuable part. Learning a simple emotion like compassion is not as easy as it sounds. There are many aspects of compassion, so it could take many incarnations to learn it, but again, you can learn it through the perspective that is unique to you. Your dad’s perspective is different, so he is going to learn/experience/perceive compassion differently than you, and there is value in that difference. I hope this helps your dad understand!


I just found your blog today, and I can’t believe you are soliciting questions today as well! So fortuitous for me! I just lost my son, Hayden Kyle. He took his own life with a self-inflicted gunshot one month ago. I would like to know if he is still in therapy or able to cross over as I have had limited experiences dreaming about him, etc. I really just wonder if he is happy and safe and at peace.

Thank you for all that you do. Now I am back to your engrossing blog! Tell Erik hello for me. 🙂

Amanda P.

Hi Amanda! I am glad you are open to my mom’s blog, and I hope that it’s helping.

Kim said, “He’s smiling and taking credit for her finding the blog.”

I like to help people like your son through their transition because I was just like him. There is a lot to understand when you transition like that, so I like to help when I can. Your son, Amanda, has crossed over and has met with God. I helped him accomplish that. Initially, coming in, meeting God was something he was very curious about, and he knew that his curiosity was accepted. Then, after that, he began his recovery phase. He had to scope the place out briefly, but now he is well into his therapy. He’s a kind soul and a very open one, and he has learned easily from his Earth experience. He reminds me a lot of myself, very curious about stuff. That curiosity is what has helped him find peace.


Hi Elisa,

I have heard a lot about a pending economic collapse of some sort. Some say it will be huge while others say it will not be so big, but there will be a change in what we use as a currency. Could you kindly ask Erik if he knows about this and what he recommends we do to prepare? Does he see a debt forgiveness program being implemented?

So much gratitude and love to you and Erik!

Lizzie P.

Great question, Lizzie! Even though I like your question, there are some things I can’t disclose. My advice though: Don’t put a lot of focus on a perceived upcoming disaster because then you will manifest it.  In other words, if you spend a lot of time and energy into preparing for some disaster to occur, you will help manifest it into your reality. It’s one thing to have a plan in place but to continue ongoing efforts to prepare for such a collapse will only manifest something you don’t want. You will see a drop in value of what you use as currency, but this will be temporary.  I hope this brings you some relief from any fear or stress that you might have.



I learned of my animal totems through a shamanic journey. I also know my main guides. Can I call upon my animal totems for strength and direction?

Thanks for your help,

Jacqueline O.

Jacqueline, yes, you can call on them and you should. That is what they are there for. Animal guides have a valuable purpose just as much as human spirit guides. They have a strong representation of your natural instincts and should be seen as an important resource. Their purpose, most of the time, is very literal based on the type of animal.  Animals can help you learn to rely on natural instincts, allowing a stronger connection to your intuition.


Hi Elisa,

I just wanted to ask Erik what my spiritual mission is as I’m struggling to find purpose. Thanks so much, and I admire you and Erik and Kim for everything you do. Sending love to all the CE family.

Lots of love,

Richelle C.

Richelle, thanks for following along on the blog. Sometimes in life, we may know our purpose, but we search for validation in that. This is more of what I see going on with you. Your spiritual mission here is to learn to trust yourself to be vulnerable with others and also to learn how you affect others by learning from their reaction to you. But you are also searching for validation in the way you feel and interact with others. Validation doesn’t necessarily come from others telling you “good job,” and it doesn’t come from your being successful. Validation comes from a strong sense of knowing, but as long as you place that in others’ hands, you’re going to continue to turn up empty handed. Practice self-acceptance in every way you can, and this will help you understand your purpose and feel validated.


Dear Elisa,

I have a question for the column in the magazine, for Erik: If someone has a negative belief in their subconscious mind such as “I am not worthy of love,” how can a person change that belief?

Thank you!

Georgiana A.

Hey Georgiana! Well, there are many ways to change that belief. First, and probably the most significant, is understanding the root of that belief. What made you feel this way to begin with? Did someone treat you badly and then you convinced yourself that you weren’t worthy? Are your thoughts based on another person’s opinion or based on an event? You have to be honest with yourself first and get to the root of the issue. Now, for some people, this is impossible. They really don’t know what the source of their belief is. This comes from being at a depressed state for a prolonged period of time. In this case, you have to understand what you are resisting energetically. You are resisting that high vibration of self-love. In other words, you are resisting loving yourself. Nothing will change until you can acknowledge that you’re resisting that. Only then can you understand your sense of unworthiness, surrender to it and then release it. After all, the more you try to avoid something, the harder it’s going to knock at your door. As they say, “What you resist persists.” Please know that like every soul, you are perfect and worthy of love.


Immediately after I had signed up at the blog, Erik made contact, but it was in my own language, Dutch. Can Erik confirm it?

If it’s of any use to you, I am clairaudient and clairsentient, and I have helped people and animals for many years now. Oh, and I am severe physically disabled. That is why I didn’t understood, in the beginning, why “the other side” chose me to do this work.



Kim said, “Margareth, Erik is speaking Dutch to me and laughing because, although I can understand that it is Dutch, I don’t know what he is saying. He thinks he’s hilarious.”

Yes, Margreth, I can communicate to anyone of any nation in any language. There is a commonality among all languages. The Universe and all living things speak in the language of love, which is based on our natural instincts or intuition. So, even though I may not have spoken that language in my physical life, I can still give you the information in a way that I know you will understand just by changing its energetic makeup. It’s pretty cool!


Erik Medhus is an eternal twenty-year-old young man who passed away on October 6, 2009. From his new place in Heaven, Erik’s main occupation is as a spirit guide who helps those who struggle with their human experience, and he is the inspiration and contributor to the Channeling Erik blog and community. With candor, sincerity, and humor, Erik shares his own full story, My Life After Death, A Memoir from Heaven (September, 2015).

An internist in Houston for over thirty years, since her son’s suicide in 2009, Dr. Elisa Medhus retired her practice and has written a book about her continuing relationship with him, My Son and the Afterlife: Conversations from the Other Side (October 2013) and has created a blog, channelingerik.com, that has over 30,000 subscribers and over 250,000 hits per month. Read the blog daily to catch the next call out for questions for the Ask Erik column.

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Psychic medium Kim Babcock has been developing her spirituality for the past ten years. Kim’s spiritual path led her to become an ordained minister and founder of Serenity- Mind Body Spirit LLC in mid-eastern Ohio, where Kim currently practices her psychic medium services and level II Reiki. She also leads meditation classes and spiritual development workshops. Learn more at kimbabcock.net.


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Elisa Medhus

An internist in Houston for over thirty years, since her son’s suicide in 2009, Dr. Elisa Medhus retired her practice and has written a book about her continuing relationship with her deceased son, Erik, My Son and the Afterlife: Conversations from the Other Side (October 2013.) With candor, sincerity, and humor, Erik shares his full story. Together they have created a blog, channelingerik.com, that has over 30,000 subscribers and over 250,000 hits per month.

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