5 Universal Rules Of Love From The East
There’s no doubt that love is on many people’s minds — all the time.
If you’re single, it can be the source of some real resentment, especially since businesses turn love into a commercial buffet. But in any case, there’s no escaping its presence. Like it or not, we’re all reminded of love constantly. What is love, though? Is it like Lord Byron’s “She Walks in Moonlight” – poetry from a bygone era? Or is it best defined by “The Notebook” written by Nicholas Sparks?
One thing is for sure: in the west, love is an integral part of finding meaning in life. But in the east, love is a little different; instead of a partner giving meaning to your life, it’s thought that you bring meaning to a partner. Not only that, but love is considered to be more of a verb than a noun. It’s a subtle change- but one that leads to profound differences in practice.
So does the east have it right? You decide!
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5 Universal Rules of Love From the East
There are a number of teachers in Eastern Philosophy that have covered this subject extensively yet captured its essence so simply. These rules of love will give you an idea of the sweeping philosophy put forth by Eastern spiritual practices.
Rule #1: “Real love is not an escape from loneliness, real love is an overflowing aloneness. One is so happy in being alone that one would like to share.” ~Osho
This is true when it comes to romantic love. Given the time we live in, people, especially this Valentine’s Day, express their despair in not being loved. Yet love is about giving – a verb, really – one that you should share with everyone. This is truly the essence of what Osho is trying to capture as “real love”. In other words, one should be comfortable being alone yet being able to share that joy and happiness in such a state with others around him.
Rule #2: “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Marianne Williamson
This quote, as insightful as it is, tells us to work on ourselves before seeking love at all. If you truly do not love yourself, how can you be loved by someone else? It makes no sense whatsoever, right? What we also have to correct, as the quote suggests, is the way we perceive love. To do so, you must remove all barriers (maybe our preconceived notions of what love should be!) to it in the first place. In other words, when we ready ourselves for love in this way, it finds us.
Rule #3: “Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.” ~Khalil Gibran
A lot of relationships fail because of possessiveness and a lack of trust. We see this all the time in society. While this pattern might be harder to break away from, binding or holding on to someone that we love can often achieve the opposite effect. This is probably because of the expectations that people have of love and their significant other. We have to relax and let love flow.
Rule #4: “Love is the absence of judgment.” ~Dalai Lama
This is a rule that we all need so badly, given the state of a ‘global village’ that we are moving towards. Different people, different viewpoints, different ways of life – these differences are actually what add to the flavor called humanity. We tend to judge people who are different from us, but in embracing love, we can let go of judgment- thus paving the way for peace and harmony between people who are very different.
Rule #5: “Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” ~Lao Tzu
True love is all about being kind to one another. As mentioned earlier, this is all about action and words – not just feelings that people tend to get caught up in. The more kind we are to people, the more positive effects we can have with everyone we interact with. Ultimately, love is the only thing that matters!
As mentioned earlier, these rules apply to all kind of relationships whether romantic or familial or otherwise. Universal rules, if you will. So, do these rules work? Or are they just words – empty words? Well, there’s only one way to find out! Are there any other universal rules of love that you would like to share with us? If so, feel free to share them in the comments section below.
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