There are so many people out there that believe they have no power over their happiness.
They may not say that, but they actually believe that.
They think that their happiness come from circumstance out of their control.
But the real truth is that they DO have control. And so do you.
So how do you do it?
1. Give back.
You may have heard the phrase “It’s in giving we really receive.”
A truer phrase has not been said.
Many times, when we give support or help others, it’s more of a benefit to us than when we get something ourselves.
Instead of asking “what’s in it for me?” ask “what can I give?”
2. Let go of drama.
Drama is everywhere!
People love to talk about that stuff. So many people are totally fixated on it.
You have to have a thick skin if you want to be happy. If you get involved in drama or people talk negatively about you, let it go.
It may be hard to do at first, but in reality there are more important things to consider.
3. Stay in the present.
Sure you can dwell on the past or get anxious about the future.
But is that any way to live?
Happy people live in the now. Sure, they may prepare for the future or reference the past, but they don’t dwell there.
This will allow you to make the most out of the present.
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4. Give yourself some love.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in someone else’s drama and forget about how important your own needs are.
Of course you should try and help others; but not so much that you completely sacrifice your being.
Giving back to yourself so you can rejuvenate allows you to be more present and helpful to others. You shouldn’t show up as a shell of who you really are!
5. Pursue your interests.
Time is so limited on earth; good health and a strong body is even more limited.
There is a certain window of opportunity we have to do what we really want and accomplish things.
When you are laying on your deathbed, what is it you would regret not doing?
There’s no sense in dying with regret…don’t put off your drams and aspirations.
6. Cultivate optimism.
It’s not naive to be optimistic or hopeful. In fact, it’s necessary if you want a happier life.
Get in the habit of seeing the positive. Even if the cards are stacked against you and things are desperate, look around you and find the inspiration.
It’s not something you fall into, rather something your cultivate and work on. You have to manufacture your optimism.
7. Commit to your priorities…even if it’s difficult.
When you get committed to something and it’s important to you, you’ll do whatever it takes to make it work.
That means even doing the stuff no one else wants to do or will do.
Ultimately, at the end of the day, it’s that kind of commitment that makes success.
8. Instead of buying “stuff”, buy experiences.
When you buy “stuff”, it comes with the prospect of it becoming obsolete and useless over time. It can even be lost, stolen, or get broken.
But if you seek experiences instead, you interact with people, have rich learning experiences, and you form memories for a lifetime.
9. Embrace vulnerability.
Success and failure are part of life.
If you want to pursue your passions and interests, you have to remember that failure is going to follow you much more than success.
Opening yourself up to failure means getting vulnerable; and that’s tough.
But it can be done. And through that, you’ll develop into a very strong person.
10. Practice gratitude.
Gratitude is one of the most tools to becoming happy.
Everyday when you wake up, consider how fortunate you are to have what you have.
Anxiousness, and depression can be almost entirely avoided through this practice alone.
Certainly, these aren’t the only things you do to be truly happy, but they definitely help. Everyone has their own philosophies and feelings about what works for them.
Try these out for yourself! Or if you practice them already, let us know how they’re doing for you in the comments section.